So 4 months ago I got out of a 6 month relationship with a young virgin I never had sex with. I felt like it was the worse thing that ever happened to me and was having panic attacks and depression everyday.

One day I decided to start online dating and getting into PU. Within a month met two girls and lost my virginity with one of them. It felt pretty great and I wanted more and more and more of it! I was talking to 6-7 girls online and talking to 5 of them on text and went out on a few more dates and got to 3rd with 3 more girls.

Then I found a girl that I liked online and we starting hanging out a lot. Like everyday day at night time almost. We are now going out. I tried to stay cool with her and show that I'm dominant but she has a very very dominant personality and I always feel bad and that I might loose her if I piss her off. She gets jealous very easily and takes my phone and looks through the texts. I just play it off like it doesn't bother me but at the same time I feel like I shouldn't let her do that. We attempted to have sex and it turned out a mess and I went limp from worrying too much and she thought she wasn't attractive enough for me to stay hard. I explained to her that night that I only had sex one time before and we got into an argument about how I lied. I let out tears and felt that old panic come over me as I felt like she was going to break it off. I told her I was sorry for not telling her the truth and we had a talk and got through it.

I'm just really confused right now emotionally and mentally. I'm not sure what to think or do. I want to be alpha like and be in control of my self and be dominant and not worry about one girl, but I'm still falling back into these AFC ways and I'm so confused and frustrated. I want to let out tears but i'm afraid that also makes me more AFC for not being able to control my emotions.

You have got to smile and relax. You're having a slight meltdown, but it doesn't sound like there's anything to worry about. Honestly.

What happened to you has happened to most guys. If you continue to bounce insecure ideas around your head however, this could become a pattern, and we don't want that.

This is what I would recommend to you:

1. Read up on bedroom game. There's some amazing pua-stuff, and an entire section of the forums devoted to it. Even picking up the kama sutra might help. Get yourself confident with the theory. This will help you to feel confident.

2. Work on some inner game. The fact is that once a girl is willing to drop her clothes, you could be the ugliest fuck on the planet and it won't matter. Unless you have two penises, you're attractive to her. Improve yourself and you won't care as much about what you look like. Seriously.

3. David Deangelo's catch phrase: attraction is not a choice. You use game to attract girls. Looks can certainly help, but even male models with poor game have trouble picking up and staying with girls.

4. Usually, you don't want to give gifts to girls for no apparent reason, but in this case I might consider it. In the card, tell her "Last night was a bad night. Lets tomorrow night a GREAT night. Meet me at (insert favorite restaurant here) at 7pm on Xday.

5. If you're in college, consider seeking out counseling. Its usually free, provided by the school. That might help to work out some inner issues.

Otherwise, just relax. The thing is that the best way to not be AFC is to work from a position of non-scarcity. But, if you're serious about this girl, then you do not want to be dating other girls. You'll have to work on your insecurities one day at a time. In the meantime, just remember that once her clothes come off, there's virtually no way that she's not into you. Unless you have a swastika tattoo on your chest or something, don't worry about it.

Seriously, you know that couple that you sometimes see walking down the street? The one where the woman is a tall blonde model with F cups and the dude looks like he's jabba the hutt? Game is not about looks, and its not that different in the bedroom

i find that being in an LTR is like a pendulum that swings back and forth and you have to adjust your behavior accordingly. sometimes its appropriate to be pua, and sometimes you have to be afc. if you don't adapt, then the relationship is going to suffer. try to balance your afc behavior with some more pua behavior.

never chop your dick off and give it to her .......

you sound messed up .... get some extra confidence and inner game..... work on yourself first..

right now you chopped your own dick off and handed it to her....you sabotaged your inner self...

why the fuck worry about one girl dude ... there are zillions out there , she's dominant because she wants someone who she can control don't worry about losing her she gets horny on controlling men.
YOu are losing yourself instead.... and when you are completely lost she will move on .... so .. don't get completely controlled!

dude vent your emotions once a while .... watch a terrible dramatic movie or documentary or something.... don't collect your emotions and vent it on her . go practice in the gym .. do some martial arts go boxing or something.
convert your emotions into energy and RELEASE it on the right moment.
well like i said ... she wants control .... and when you give it 100% to her it's game over.

with that sex stuff you SHOULDN'T be emotional on that ..... it's stress it's normal it's all between your ears.
i once had a second night stand ( lol no one night ) anyway i couldn't keep it hard and cum in her ... i need some familiarity - hey im a relationship guy.....

by letting out tears you made it more worse then it is ... if you said well ''fuck it, everybody makes mistakes '' it would be wayyyyy less worse. it's not the dish .... it's the flavouring you add to it ... what flavouring do you add sweet sauce or hot chili ?.

sex isn't that important ..... i mean it's an important part or factor but ITS NOT LIKE 100 % important. As long you can make her laugh and feel ok it's ok.... some girls rather date an impotent dick instead of a shy sex machine..

so right now ... i can tell you..

wtf are you doing ... crying and letting emotions out i mean WTF dude ..... please walk to the toilet put your head in it and flush 3 TIMES .. yes i SAID 3 TIMES. Get a fucking grip on your life.. YOU are worrying about one girl BECAUSE you allowed yourself to worry ... you let out tears and talked emotionally about the lie etc.

NEVER allow youself being emotional too soon.. don't be captain sensitive, yesterday i was talking to my date ( now my new GF lol ) about how my ex got pregnant and we lost our kid. i told her about it without one drop of emotion, without getting emotional or pathetic - yes it's hard to talk about but i can cry when im alone i don't need to do that in her presence.
By not getting emotional i showed her im very stabile , im hard to fuck with - i conveyed that. after i switched to another subject and made some jokes.

girls don't always want to deal with someone elses baggage ... they rather find a new guy because it's easier to do instead of hearing someone bragg..

get some shit going in your lifestyle ... maybe go to iraq and get shot at . that will give you confidence.

right now ...... stop worrying ..... the more you worry the worse it gets , be cool . do stuff and go to the gym.

ps . Being a virgin for a long time is cool man ... my respect ... there is nothing wrong with it.

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