Help me help my buddy, this is the story...
My buddy has been on a LTR for about 2 years, now

She says "Right now I feel pretty comfortable alone, right now I feel like being alone, I don´t really want a boyfriend right now.. etc"
I think what triggered this is his jealousy towards her even though she has not been whorish or anything, and he was kind of jealous towards her, she asked for some time and now she seemed more towards the "LJBF side"

So any recommendations??
He is planning on seeing her in Halloween since she is coming to her brother´s party at Mty what do you think he should and should NOT do?? (She said she wanted to be friends in the present time with a possibility of returning together in the future)
BTW he is being kind of needy... And even though I have been telling him to keep it cool, he is just saying all needy lines like "But we have been together for 2 years, this can´t end so easily", "I love her too much" (When he asked her how much time did she thaught she would have an exact answer she told him "Well I can´t say for sure if there will be a time, I can´t order you to wait for me, I just wouldn´t cope with the possibility of you losing a girl because you were waiting for me" and he responded "But I can´t love anyone else besides you, I can´t think of anyone but you"

Please help I need advice for my friend...

Fully freezeout and hope for the best in my opinion.

She will either realise she was happier with him or move on.

If he keeps laying on the needy pressure he's 100% going to blow it though. All he's doing is DLVing constantly.

The more he pushes her the further away she will get.

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So it would be best not to see her in the halloween party?? I kinda told him the same thing too...

BTW something I forgot to add she had told him to give her time to think about how she felt and blah blah... And he kept it for like... a week but he couldn´t hold it anymore and called her today and that´s how the whole conversation of "I feel good alone right now, we can be friends right now with possibility of being together again in the future, blah blah" started..

I'd say the situation is almost entirely dead. Don't see her for halloween.

If after a 2 week freezeout she doesn't get in touch with him then he should meet up casually and play from A1 of the M3 model to see if it will go anywhere. If it doesn't he should move on.


I find that with LTRs the relationship can usually be brought back to life after a 1 or 2 month full freezeout - that means no contact of any kind whatsoever. After this period (and providing there aren't other guys as outside factors) picking up on conversation and catching up usually leads to the relationship restarting.

Me and an ex had 9 break ups over 2 years because we froze each other out everytime. We'd then either fail in another relationship or get bored and end up reconciling with each other and being together again.

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FREEZE OUT FOR SURE!

If she moves on... it was coming anyways, you were just prolonging it.

If not, shell take the bait and build attration again

tell him to remember push-pull through the whole relationship... Its like mowing the grass, you can do it every week and have it not be a big deal, or wait 3 months for the grass to grow wild and have it be a hassle to cut.

Maintenance is always the best option

This is exactly why so many relationships go astray. You have to repeat cocky funny behaviour and early game now and again in order to hold on to that attraction and sexual tension. Never allow the needyness or complacency to settle in.

It only leads to her finding something more exciting.

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