You go over to your girlfriends (you have only been exclusively dating for about a month) on Saturday night to hang out. Everything goes pretty well. You go out with your friends, she goes out with hers (you plan on getting back together later on in the night).

She acts like a bitch over the phone later on that night. When you text her around 1:00am saying your tired and asking if she is ready to go to sleep, she tells you to "go home." You do.

The next morning, she calls to apologize, saying she doesn't quite remember saying this to you. You, still a little pissed about it, are short with her. You cut the call short, saying "you have to go into the store and I'll call you later or something." She is obviously pissed with you and hangs up. After this, she sends you a text saying "You are rude, don't bother calling me I'll be busy all day long."

You don't call her all day and don't send her a text in response to this. You obviously judge that she is the one who is in the wrong here, even if you were short with her on the phone. You justify your "shortness" with the fact that she pissed you off. You decide to leave her alone all day Sunday (after her morning message not to call).

You wait all Monday, expecting her to reinitiate contact. She doesn't. It is now 10:00pm. Do you call or text her? If so, what would you say? Would you apologize, just to appease her? You believe she will not call or text you tonight. Do you wait it out all day tomorrow (Tuesday) and hold out waiting for her to reinitiate contact or do you plan on saying something tomorrow?

What is your next move?
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This situation happened to a close friend of mine who is in a new relationship he is excited about but not too attached to. He has stated he is willing to walk away at any time (or at least seems OK with it).

For me, I would simply wait another day and see what happens. This girl is particularly stubborn and believes that guys should basically kiss her ass just because she is hot. I informed my friend he better not validate this behavior by following suit. All her past boyfriends did this and it only made the situation worse.

I believe I would put her on ice for Monday, and perhaps around Tuesday evening (if I still have received no word from her) send her a short message, saying "hi, hows your day going." Or something like that. I'm sort of on the fence about just waiting out all of Tuesday to, and even going as far as just waiting an indefinite period of time until she reinitiates contact since she is obviously the one who is in the wrong. Other people might have a different approach.

This sort of raises the question of what you do when your girlfriend behaves badly and then ignores you. This is actually, in my mind and this situation (a relationship that is very new) that makes me strongly believe this is a shit-test. She wants to feel out his boundaries, see what she can get away with. I'm not sure if the best strategy is to continue to ignore her until she contacts you or contact her and act like it never happened. The ignore strategy seems optimal but I'm not sure, because if you have a girl who is very stubborn, she may actually believe she was the one who was wronged and ignoring her only makes her feel like you don't care.

I swear I was in that relationship!

There's certainly no absolute answer. If it is a shit-test, then the key is to ignore it. That sends the message that you're not willing to play along. Any response won't help you in all likelihood.

If on the other hand its a regular occurrence, it might just be who she is. I don't think that game is ever going to make a girl see the error of her ways short of doing something extreme like breaking up with her.

At the end of the day you have to ask yourself is it worth the grief that she's putting you through.

If you still want to see her, call, make plans, whatever. Just try to ignore what she's done. If you absolutely need to talk about it, wait a few days and bring it up delicately.