OK i must have done things right if this girl I was dating sees all the qualities in me that we associate with alpha (funny, accomplished, driven, sociable, intelligent, protector of love ones, life of the party etc.) She thinks the world of me. HOWEVER, she told me crying that it hurts her that she does not feel a spark for me. She wants to feel it. Did I do something wrong or is there something wrong with her? Is there anything I can do to fix this?

A freeze out is your best option.

I did, but to no avail (usually for a day or two) ... How long should my freeze out be? (3 weeks, a month...) Once I do re-engage, how should I approach it?

Do you want a relationship with this girl, or what?

Are you waiting till she contacts you? Even then act distant. You didn't do anything wrong probably. Maybe if anything not enough kino? If you did lots of kino, then you did nothing wrong. It's just her.

If you want a relationship, then I suggest doing a freeze out, max 2 weeks especially if she is trying to contact you. Then going out for 1 more date and initiating a lot of kino and try to escalate it somewhere, if nothing happens I would say move on.

how do you want to fix it ? obviously she doesn't feel enough - it's crystal clear.
if want to fix ''it'' you need to fix ''her'' , sending her to a shrink isn't an option.

A freeze out is the best thing you could do.

she is acting like this because she FEELS forced ... don't even call her BECAUSE everything that has to do with you will make her feel different right now.
wait for her to contact you , don't try to act like a therapist by forcing her...

well it depends how long u have been with her ... how long you dated her ... etc

max 2 weeks .... don't make it any longer ...
don't wait a month, chances are big she will find someone else in a month.

_________________
AK-47...When you absolutely positively have to kill every fucking orc in the room
questions about herbal medicine here-vp582526.html#582526

we were going into our 3rd month of dating.

The kino was good I got lots of it and she gave it back to.

Yes, by fixing I do mean a relationship.

Every time I tried to lead the relationship further I couldn't get her to follow. So I changed my tactic. I backed of completely and gave her the opportunity to chase me. The problem was that she really didn't fill the void (she is an extremely busy person right now).

I was thinking maybe I was talking to her to much or giving her to much attention. But I'm in my last semester of lawschool so I could only give her the weekends. So it wasn't like I was smothering her. Once I didn't call for 4 days and she finally called me.

My plan is to not call at all. I'm gonna let her call me and see what happens. I was thinking Thanksgiving is in the next few weeks. If she doesn't call I'll just send a holiday card to her home, just to let her know I'm around. Maybe her feeling have changed just a little.

I'm really lost on this one fellas...