Hey,

I have had this girlfriend now for about 3 months. We are pretty amazing together, she is the most amazing woman I have ever met. She does things for me, thinks of ME first, doesn't ever give me any attitude, appreciates what I do for her, and doesn't ever ask anything in return but is happy with whatever I give her. She thinks I'm amazing and says she's never met anyone so special. Well... I felt the same about her... but things lately... have not been feeling the same twords her. For no real reason either. Most of the time I'd just move on. However... she is EVERYTHING I am looking for in a woman. I can't get over these feelings of "blah" twords her. I am kind of distant and quiet with her lately... and I tend to say really rude shit to her and don't even really mean to. I have never experienced this feeling with someone while in a relationship - because most of the time I am fully excited about it. This is different... which makes NO sense... because the other previous EXs have all been bi**hes and my current girlfriend actually is what I am looking for. So why is this? How can I change the way I feel?? I dont want to just say "bye" just yet.

Background.
3 months.
Not had sex, which is sometimes on my mind a lot. Hers too sometimes... but she sets herself up to not have sex by doing certain things that would cross having sex off of the night.
She recently started txting this guy from her work (that she used to like and he liked her. They used to FLIRT when I was with her. I had to have a huge talk with her to get her to stop and since we had been fine. Until now. She started txting him again.) Maybe that's why???

Help... grrrrr.

She might feel neglected. That could be why she is reacting out to another man. She want's to feel loved and heard.

Work on listening to her--not for her words, but for her feelings. Just work on hearing her feelings and consoling them. Ask her to allow you distance in your relationship. You are a man and you need your alone time. Tell her this is important that you have your personal space, and that she respects that.

Good Luck.

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You might be projecting your own past experiences into this relationship. I don't think there is enough evidence to know that she is cheating on him. If she was, she probally would #1 hide the fact that she talks to him or #2 just get with him...

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... Don't frame me or my past experiences, keep that speculation to yourself thank you.

My comment stands.

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You have one-itis. And get ready to get heart broken. Thats all right..as richard pryor said it.. When a woman brakes a mans heart, he graduates

So after she does that, come back to us and tell us how it felt Than we can start working..

Cus untill than, you are emotionally convinced that SHE is the ONE and perfect girl that you would do ANYTHING to make her stay with you.. and sadly, that is exactly the reason that she wount stay with you.

But if you are looking for a quick solution, show her that you are wanted by other women. That you are not clinged to her, that you are willing to find yourself another girl. If you are not wanted by other women, than I think you found your problem

Dont get all wussy and crying about how much you love her.. altough, I think this is inevitable.

Take care.

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Wow! I guess I was wrong.

When you said

You have one-itus. You are not able to accept her from leaving you. Not wanting her to leave you is one thing, but when you think about the relationship ending, that is a sign of trouble.

Don't think about the relationship ending ever. You have to be confident.

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I think it's the exact opposite. I don't think you truly love her dude.

She is txt'ing this other dude in plain sight because she wants you to be jealous. She wants to know you love her. Don't get angry with her. Tell her that you love her and that you are jealous. bla bla blah..

But 3 months and no sex is a big problem. Fuck her already, show her that you are a man. Don't be pushy.. be firm.. expect to get it.. don't hope for it.

But I think the major problem from what you write is not that you are afraid she is cheating or slipping away. The major problem is that you are constantly irritated with her for no reason and yell at her even though she is the "perfect" woman. The reason for this is that she is making things to easy for you and even though she is PERFECT... you don't have the feelings for her that you should have!! I think you will eventually break her heart if you manage to win her over again.

Best of luck