Hey guys, long time reader since 06 here.... Anyways i'm currently in a one-year relationship with my GF, but i feel like i'm losing control. Everything was fine at the begining, i had her eating out of my hand and as time passed she became distant. Now last night, i met one of her best friends for the first time while partying together and she said she wanted to meet me for a long time and i replied " she keeps me in the down-low cause i'll get taken away" in a joking way.
Next day, i get a text from my GF telling me that her friend told her what i said. The friend twisted my words & told her that i said that she doesn't appreciate me as her BF, & that i get no attention from her. I told her that was total BS & that i do my talking face to face when something is wrong. She then replied & told me to "just be careful of what i say to others next time if there's a next time.. Good-Nite" I really feel like i'm loosing my grip on the relationship! I know the family really well & im really interested in the relationship!
I really want to take control & make this work! As a long-time reader i'm seeking advice for the first time! My plan is to talk to her face to face tomorrow & clear things out! But i don't know if thats the best plan, i don't want to act AFC or needy! I want control again! I like this girl, but i didn't like the " if theres a next time" part. Any advice on what i should do or say in a ALPHA way? Thanks

Wow dude that's intresting. You seem like your in a tyte spot. I would venture to say that there is a deep underlying problem between both you and her. I hope she is willing to figure it out. If she is not, then don't worry about it.

What kind of people are you? Asking for this kind of advice on here is very hard to give it to you without knowing who you are. I don't know if we are going to be able to help much other than give you advice that we did in a similar situation. I need more information.

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ok understand me and listen up !

Friends and even her best friends want to fuck up your relationship ..... they want her to remain single so one day they can fuck her.
YOu should ask your GF why does she believe her friend instead of you ? i mean wtf
AND DONT EVEN BE AFC OR WEAK OR IL BREAK YOUR NECK so be aware !

just fucking treat her male single friends like ugly girls.... believe me... in 4 of my relationships were always some single male friends of her trying to sabotage my relationship because they probably landed in the friendship zone and can't stand the fact your fucking her.

next time don't overreact.. don't be like '' OH YOUR FRIEND TWISTED MY WORDS IS BULLSHIT WTF''

Be like : ok well.. i didn't say that to him maybe the music was to hard and he didn't knew what i was saying... wel it's op to you what to believe...

be like: i don't give a shit i knew what i've said , if you don't believe me i will find another girl who would. work from this mindset and don't become needy.

DON'T EVEN CLEAR THINGS OUT IN A REGULAR WAY.... ask her out .. go to a dinner with her .. do some funny shit with her and after that you can talk about the subjects

you don't like that part ... well .. ask her what she means ... what are the intentions of those words. maybe she didn't meant it in a bad way or negative way and she will hear you bragging about it.
FIRST ASSES the situation ... what are you dealing with? .. what are the things you don't like ( ASK HER WHAT SHE MEANT ) and then communicate.
you can't think for another person .. thats up to her.

When your loosing grip it means your GF is getting on top of the relationship and thats bad shit... you loose all your value when she controls the relation.
don't let your GF treat you like a girl ...

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I agee with the above! you need to stay calm and just realize that at this moment she is trying to take control of you and testing you. When she said "you better watch what you say" you should have told her not the threaten you and that you will talk to her about it when you are both togeather and also that she needs to cool off then left it at that.

When you do talk to her just stay calm calm calm! and tell her you didnt say it...leave it at that and if she doesnt beleve you then just say thats fine you know what you said and if she dose not trust and beleve you after a year then you are very disappointed...especially when it came from another guy. boom end of story! let her do the talking you have nothing left to prove.

Also dont suck up to her and let her apologize! you did nothing wong.

Thanks guys for the reply... To answer Magnum45's question, well she's 22 & i'm 26. I'm the type of guy that tries to be firm & clear, i try to stay away from being AFC. I'm not really the sweet guy here, i neg her a lot. I've tried the Cocky/funny approach most of the time. it worked at first, but lately she complaints i hurt her feelings when ever i pick on her. She had low self-esteem when i met her, i treated her like an alpha male & she was CHASING all the time!
She got a different job where its mostly guys that work there & thats where i started to lose control. I started acting jealous because of a text she received form a co-worker & thats a No No! my mistake! but ever since she doesn't chase me anymore, but we still manage to go out & have fun together. Everything was going fine until this past-weekend! I feel like i have to do something about it today after work!