Hey guys,
First off I want to say this is a pretty kick ass website. I've never really need any kind of advice before but I got myself into a bit of a situation. My friends recommended this website for a place for Q&A .

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I've been dating this girl now for about 2 months. She's by far one of the nicest and sweetest girls I've ever known. When we make-out I've always try to get her in the mood then try for downstairs. I always get the hand just about there, when i get a tug to move back up. Very frustrating. I then try to get her hand on my package, but it never really amounts to anything. She told me I'm the furthest shes ever gone with anyone. (We have only made out, and i took her shirt off ) . I told her thats okay and for to let me know if were going too fast.

I find this really difficult because every girl I've been with since Junior High / High school was never shy. Even if we didn't have sex, we still would fool around. I'm 21 and have slept with 6 girls, 3 of them were longer term girl friends. Getting a simple tug or blowie was never an issue. Any these girls werent easy either. I know how much sex / physical contact can improve a relationship. [I went to Cancun with another girlfriend (last yr) that i was dating for only a few weeks. If we didn't touch every day when we were there, we probably wouldn't have lasted for the 6 months back home]

Anyways,
I've asked her a few times what her she feels about this kind of stuff. She said shes not against it. I also asked her in a text message about different values she wouldn't change for anyone (As as a way to indirectly ask her if shes going to wait till marriage) one of her responses was waiting to fall in love before having sex.

Maybe I'm just being an ass but usually by the two month mark our bedroom would be filled with something. Its fine making out here and there, but I find it a complete tease. Its almost come to the point where I dont even want to anymore because I'll just be frustrated and probably get bluies.

Any advice? Much appreciated

do a so-called freeze-out. Make out, then escalate into sex. If she doesn't comply, do something else. If she takes the initiative to make out again you escalate again. If she doesn't comply, you do something else. Basically, you need to get her into understanding that you won't make out with her unless it evolves into sex.

- Exerio

Read up some stuff on LMR (Last Minute Resistance) if that doesn't help change your gf lol

Cheers,

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V3nu

This indeed sounds like LMR to me.

The freeze-out may actually not work here. If not, get your boots ready for the next girl.

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True communication is communion―the realization of oneness, which is love! ~ Eckhart Tolle