Me and this girl has been dating for a couple weeks. I'm 21 and she is 17. We get along very well but she cant date anyone older than 2 years... So she cant tell her family and she has to lie about me. We were going to break up because of this, but were trying to stay together. What options are there? tell her parents im like 19 or something? Or find some girls more my age (she's very cool tho)?

You know when I was 17 and there were girls my age going out with 21 year old dudes I used to hate them... But now I'm 22 and I go out and I see all these naive 17-18 yr babes cutting loose at the clubs/bars etc. I feel like a fat kid at a candy store so i'm totally for it now

There's not as much of a challenge with the younger girls but what you need to be weary of is 'her' motivations. Is she going out with you because your an older guy and it makes her friends jealous or is she dating you for the real you?

I mean if you were just looking for a casual fling then that's perfect dude, but if your looking at something more serious you'll need to consider that shes still young and she hasn't done most of the crazy shit you did between 17 and 21 so it's probably not the best set up for a serious relationship. Also... I'm not sure what country your from but most likely she'll be studying her ass off soon to try and get into a good university so I gaurantee her parents won't be cool with you being around to distract her.

So it'll probably be a bumpy ride if you stay with her and you would probably be better off with girls around your own age for something serious but really, just do what feels right no-one but you can tell you how and who to love.

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People change drastically from the age of 17-21! think of how naive and diffrent you were in highschool....well that is what she is going through. Im not going to say dump her because mabey you two are meant to be togeather but just remember that when you are 17...you prob thought you knew everything, you were prob naive to the world.

I dont blame her parents because they know she is still a teenager and will make poor decisions because her brain is not fully mature, she has little life experience and they know what mose 21 year old men have on their minds. I also think that she is prob very impressionable at this age and you need to understand that she looks up to you to take the lead and be her shoulder.

Now that being said if you really do love this girl then IMO you should tell her you want to meer her parents and you should go to dinner with them. Bring some flowers for her mom and some desert that you have made, and dress up! be polite and let them see that you are a good guy who has good intentions! The biggest thing honestly for a parent is not your age but rather how you treat their daughter and they are just looking out for her. She them you care about her and be respectful in their house! meaning nothing inappropriate!

Good luck home boy!

most girls of 17 are unstable and change their minds quick...
yes they are easy to get ... i can easily Kiss close them in one night but they certainly aren't girlfriend material.
Il rather go for something more mature ....`17 year old's are too unstable in a relationship .... mb you can fuck them a few times and have fun.
if someone tells a girl what she can't do ( her parents or you ) she will probably do it.

Imo If your fucking 17 year old girls and your in your 20's then you have no game...you are playing the age card and your not a good pua. The whole point of pua is to get the girls you couldnt get before when you wer an afc...an out of shape ugly 22 year with a car could get a 17 year old lol

Honestly guys common...highschool girls is messed up! yeah they might have boobs and they might be cute but these are not women....their teenagers.

Im 22 and my gf is 19...when we met I was 21 and obv. she was 18....she lied to me and said she was 20 and when I found out I almost didnt date her because I thought that 18 was to young at the time but we got along really well and she was turning 19 so I let it slide. Had she told me she was 17 I would have never talked to her again because I couldnt be with a highschool girl.

thanks for the opinions! I honestly do think it is kind of messed up i'm with a highschool girl, but i like her. I'll try meeting her parents (and be polite as suggested) and see what happens. haha i never thought i would be a situation like this!!! thanks again!

stuff like age, distance, and other not important stuff arent a factor to people that are dedicated to their relationship. If she really wants to be with you she'll have the "fake till you make it" attitude and do what she has to do. theres underlying issues that need to be addressed, shes using age as a scapegoat

yeah, I was thinking maybe along the same lines man...damn scapegoats!

That's the thing I love about high school girls.. I keep getting older they keep staying the same age.

yeah scapegoat all the way, she was seeing some other guy at the same time as she was seeing me...DUMB!

Age ain't nothing but a number, I'm 19 and had a HB10 on my nuts after about a week. Granted she was under the impression that I was 23 but I didn't care. We had a good time together until she found my ID...

SHE WAS PISSED!!!

I could have cared less, it was clear that all the issues we were having were hers.
It's your reality amigo, if anyone has a problem with it fudge it. If you start to really have a problem with it tho, then you're out of alignment with the path meant for ya sons.

DO WHAT YOU WANT, DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT. =]

The only reason why a big age difference is negative is because it usually implies sex, and a lack of understanding. So, no long term connection. I think this is a different case. The parents will decide.

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The only reason why a big age difference is negative is because it usually implies sex, and a lack of understanding. So, no long term connection. I think this is a different case. The parents will decide.[/quote]

I agree with magnum with exception. There is no challenge in getting 17 year old's, they are more impressionable and materialistic. They will like you for your car, for what you can get them i.e. alcohol/ciggarettes/drugs. For a 17 yr old girl dating an older guy it is a thing of social status and a kind of rite of passage. They will probably think your a loser once they get a bit older.

Yet when you are out somewhere and you see a hot girl and you pick her up then she decides to tell you she's 17. Not many guys will walk away from that. I don't normally ask girls how old they are unless I want to use it as a neg e.g.
Me: So how old are you anyway you look really young?
HB: 19
Me: Aww how cute, your just a baby.

Whether you pursue it after the initial encounter however is an entirely different matter because that involves manipulating young girls which is kind of wrong.

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