So Im reakky glad I came across this forum and looking for some help with my problems.

Ive been with this girl for 2 months, she's definetly the best girl Ive been with, very nice, appreciates me, tells me she loves me all the time, that she misses me, cooks, and is great fun. The best sex and everything. We got very close in 2 months, cause we saw each other everyday, same group of friends and hit it off, known each other since May.

Its long distance now (kinda) I see her for 3-4 days and then head home for 3-4 days, she goes to uni. I see her parents and Im good friends with one of her best female friends and we probably now speak more then they speak.

But since she's at uni, Ive noticed she goes out alot. and she does flirt. she always has guys around her.
When we first got together and she was talking to some guy on 1 of our nights out, and I didnt pay any attention and played it cool, she told me later that night, that she loved that I gave her space and she likes me even more.

but now that I always see guys around her, and that she's flirting, I told her Im not too happy with it. She cried and said, she's insecure and she likes attention, not just from guys, but likes attention. and then she started to say she doesnt mind too much as long as it doesnt bother me. and said things like, if you think Im flirting just come and put ur arm around me and make me yours. Cause you know Im all yours.
I put on the alpha and said, it doesnt matter who you talk to, I know Im 10 times the guy any of them are and she seemed to like it and then we slept together.

Anyway. What can I do.

If guys are dancing with her, or talking to her? Sometimes I do want to give her some space and sometimes I want to say she's mine and I dont like her flirting away. I dont want to seem like the jealous type and always get involved in the conversation and but how can I break the flirting and put my point across to all the guys without seeming jealous? Is it something I always have to do?

As a professional fighter and amatuer boxer, I know I can smack ass, but thats not what I want to do.

Thanks

You should assert dominance, but don't have to tell the guy to get lost. Just let him know that you are the man in her life. Be nice, but be alpha. Sitting back and playing it cool is good, but can see afc if you do it too much.

EDIT: Also, basically from what you said, she already knows you can give space and not be jealous, but now she wants to see you go alpha. So do it, but don't over do it.

Don't be afraid to be jealous evryone is by nature, its evoultionarly programmed to be jealous in order to protect your emmotional investment in this girl.

judging by how you described her you have alot of investment in her were programmed to protect our mates if we didnt we would never replicate and have a pair bond with anybody.

That is why we must be the alpha male and show other guys that shes your girl and it would be a bad idea to cross with you and make a move on her.

thats the sort of frame i have in my relationship, guys think twice before they make a move with my girl but don't show insecurity because guys will see that.

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Thanks guys.

Any tips, on what to do with different scenario's. e.g dancing, if she's smoking, or flirting? and how often should I ignore it and how often should I step up