Been seeing this girl for a year in like 10 days. We get along great, and its been the best relationship I've ever had. However, sex has not been clicking recently and its certainly causing some tension between us. I'm usually pretty closed about talking about stuff that happens behind closed doors, but I need some advice on this one. Before me she had never had an orgasm. That was an ego booster. However, she has never gotten off during sex which was never a problem with girls I've been with in the past. She can only get when I do it 'manually' is guess you could say. Not such a bad thing, but it can only happen every so often given the right setting. This has made sex focus mostly about her trying to please myself. I've never thought of myself to be selfish, but this gives me a whole lot of guilt and just makes things less enjoyable which pretty much ends my sexual drive. Occasionally this wouldn't be a problem, but recently its been alllll the time. I guess it does hurt my ego a little that I haven't been able to you know for her, but to me its more important that we both enjoy the act and its more about the intimacy bla bla bla. Most of the other aspects of our relationship are great. I hate being that guy that makes sex seem so important, but as I said I've never been selfish and have always tried to stick to the 'ladies first' rule haha. Oh well, any tips or similar experiences with any girls you guys have been with in the past? What did you do to get past it and make things flow more smoothly in and out of the bedroom?

ask any girl, or google it. Girls rarely have orgasms during intercourse, they have them mostly during oral. My advice focus more on foreplay and finish with sex. Foreplay is more fun anyways if both of you are putting in the work and its not one sided.

Get her to put in a little effort. It shouldn't be 100% on you to make her cum. Sure, start with foreplay and all that, but get her to play with her clit during intercourse, that'll make her cum.

It tough man! honestly I find that sex is very mental...often more for her then you but its very mental for the man as well. If you go into somthing with negitive thoughts then chances are the sex is going to be horrible and boring! If you go in turned on, care free, and thinking "this is going to be great!" then the sex will usually be good or even great sex!

I remember the first time I had sex with my gf it was horrible! prob the worst sex I had ever had! why? because I beleve we were both in a nerves mind state and we were not ready to have sex....but as time went on we tried new things, got to know what both of us liked, and sex got better!

One tip I can give you is try new things even If they are little things! this really will turn her on! look up new positions, gentaly rub her clitoris during intercourse, pull her hair, grab her ass cheaks, toss her around...it might sound basic and dumb but trust me it goes a long way for a women! somthing as simple as pulling her hair can be the diffrence beetween good sex and shity sex for her.

If you find yoru self thinking to much then try to have a couple drinks before you have sex...not all the time but the next time you have sex try it out and it could break the ice.

and last get her turned on before hand....how? start in the morning by texting her telling her she's beautiful, then show up at her work with flowers and lunch, then tell her you can wait for tonight you have a suprise for her....she will love it! buy a bottle of wine, some candles, and make her dinner.

If you do all these things and honestly put forth a good effort to make it work and still your sex is shit.....well im sorry my friend but perhaps you two will never have a good sex life lol

P.s I would say 99% of the time my gf and I have amazing sex! but there are times when for some reason I have not lasted long, couldnt get it up a second time ect ect were I felt like a real idot or less of a man and after it does feel weird! but its normal to have an off night from time to time you just cant let that one night get stuck in your mind.

kiss for 2 minutes
kiss with tongue and french kiss for 10 minutes
kiss and massage for 10 minutes
hand in pants for 2 minutes
finger her ( not to deep) for 5 minutes
undress het and finger her deep for 10 minutes
go for some not-to-thrilling sexual positions ... don't go doggystyle right away
and keep kissing etc and don't go to fast