okay so heres the deal i've been dating this girl for a month and everything was going pretty well up until about a week ago she started seeming like she cared less by not responding to texts as quick and not awnsering phone calls. This weekend we went to a party and everything was great until we got home she usually spend the night at my house and we make out and whatever but she just went straight to sleep this pissed me off but I said fuck it cause i was tired anyways. The next morning we and and a couple freinds who are "talking" went back to to drop them off at home and she didnt kiss me bye. So i sent her a text saying bye.. she got all offended and wondered why i was mad and i told her that if she likes me then she needs to show it she replies with i dont like pda and asked if that bothered me. I told her it did but its not a big deal or anything and i was already mad because of a different thing unrelated tha thad happened the night before. She said she understood and later on that day us 4 were meeting again to go fishing and then to eat. We went fishing but she just stayed quite and texted nonstop. On the way to the resturaunt i tried to get close to her but she was being a bitch and said i smelled like fish wtf? I just came back form fishing! So i ignored her until she asked if i brought money which i didnt and she got all pissed off.
So fast foward to the resturaunt i was in a pissed of mood and so was she so i started hitting on the waitress right in front of her lmao. Then her freind and her went to the bathroom and had a chat. When they came back my freind took me outside and told me that she was mad because i didnt ever pay for anything(which isnt at all true) and was hitting on the waitress, so i came back in and told her i wasnt hitting on the fucking waitress.
Now here is the reason i havent dumped her ass yet... She walked outside to talk to her mom and i decided to follow her tho have a chat. I asked her wtf her problem was and she said that she has a problem with depression and has been off of her meds for a few months but was talking to her mom about getting back on them. She said sorry blah blah i said that it doesnt bother me she just need to let me know this type of stuff and she could talk to me whenever she wanted. So we go back inside and she contenues the bitch shit all the while texting someone and wont tell me who it is i tell her its bothering me and she doesnt give a shit and says its a freind from an old school so i say whatever. We all rode with her freind and at the end of the night she took us back to my freinds place on the way she i was sitting behind her and because she wouldnt sit next to me and everythime she got a text she would turn away so i couldnt see who it was. when we got there i asked her if she thought we were working out she said yes shes just been a bitch recently and shes sorry so we made out and parted ways. The next day i text her asking how she feels and she has a headache i try to be nice whatever but shes still being a bitch so i tell her she is and ill talk to her later. My freind came later that day after him and the two girls had been hanging out at her freinds house. They were about to come to my place but one of their moms wouldnt let them but when they were about to come her freind texted my freind and told him to tell me not to be lovey dovey with her she wasnt happy with me. WTF im NEVER lovey dovey with her! so i text her a long message saying how i care about her but shes being a bitch pretty much but we need to take a break and ill still take her to homecoming mainly because i dropped alot of money on a damn mum. Because she had already gone to sleep she texted me the next day and says she thinks im right so i reply do you want us to work out? She says well just see waht happens and i reply ok. have a nice day.

Thats the last time i talked to her and i dont plan to today. I really like this girl because our relationship had been great before all of this. But i was wondering what should i do? I dont know i cant be afc and i really want to keep her but is it worth this bs? I really think this is a big shit test and im failing at it pretty bad. The good news is I have a big birthday party this friday and shell be there and thats also the night of the homecoming game ill be turning 18. How should i treat her that night? I was thinking ignore her the whole week until i have to give her the mum. Any input would be great i cant stop thinking about this shit.

Ok first of all do you really like this girl? or just the thought of being with her because from the sounds of things she might not make a great gf.

Ok first of all you are talking to much and not thinking enouph....stop txting her long msg and telling her how much you like her. She is treating you like shit and you want telling her how much you like her? bad idea! have you ever heard the the expression "the last man who speaks looses" ? because its very true! often the person who talks more and goes on and on makes them self look stupid and desperate. Less is more and you need to simply state what you want and let her know that you wont accept any less.

example: you text was prob somthing like "I like you so much and your amazing ect ect ect bla bla bla...but you are being mean and I dont like it ect ect ect bla bla bla". Does that sound about right?

well try this

You: "Hey I need to talk to you"

Her: "Ok about what"

You: "I like you but you have not shown me that you care about me so perhaps we just arnt meant to be with each other?"

Her: No I like you ect ect ect.

You: I see. Ok well I guess I have some thing to think about Il talk to you later.


Now leave it dont talk to her for a day and actully think hard about what you are going to day. Again dont tell her how much you really like her because you when you do that you look desperate unless she has already told you. When you talk to her again say what you have to say in fewer words and If she is still not acting how you would like then tell her you like her but you dont think things will work because she is not on the same level as you.

Why be with somone who isnt going to put the work in to make your relationship successful? and If she does like you she will do what it takes to get you back and make things work.

The key is to always have a women thinking she likes you slightly more then you like her. As soon as she knows she has an edge on you she will take you for every thing you have lol you will give and inch and she will take a mile...no 10 miles lol

You need to learn to control you emotions when you get worked up. What makes sens to men doesnt make sens to women...when you say "Your amazing, I love you, I want to be with you" in women talk that is Im a chump and you can walk all over me but Il still stick around.

Now this doesnt mean treat her like shit but use some push pull...when she is acting out of line then push and when she is acting how you want then pull.

very good advice.

I remember seeing a David D video where he interviewed a natural, David X. One of the things David X said has stuck with me for a very long time. he said that in a relationship, the one who loves the other less has all the power.

thanks for the replies guys but i fucked up and texted her about the break and said i didnt think we needed it she replied she thinks we do so i said ok then but were not going to see other people and i asked her how long and she said as long as she wanted i contenued to be a chump so she said id rather be broken up so i was a dick to her but its whatever i learned the lesson now ill just move on i know shell want me back but i really dont think im going to accept her.

in my opinion, it looks like either you

a) just had a venting session

OR

b) don't REALLY like the girl, so you're trying to justify yourself into getting out of the relationship.

Either way, it sounds like you wanted out anyway.