Hello,

New to this forum and not sure if anyone would help answering my questions... but have no other place/people to talk Any help/advice would be appreciated.

In chronological order:

1. The reason the woman was separated from her husband was a relationship with a guy with whom she did work together at her previous job. Faced with rumors/inapropriate questions at work she decided to quit her previous job and as of now she works for the same company I do.

2. I was in exclusive relationship with this woman. We had great time and for a month could not live an hour without each other. After a month she decided to cease the relationship and I agreed.

3.We remained in somewhat friends relationship for few months after the breakup. We also took a liberty to exchange communication priveleged for lovers only. No sexual interaction after the break up. Once again we work for the same company and see each other daily, but do not talk not to attract attention from other associates.

4. I called her up last week to see how she is doing. From my side the conversation had a neutral tone with no attempt to get back together, but rather to be friends. However I've challenged her several times and was bit cocky trying not to show my dissappointment in us breaking up. I have to admit I might ve pushed her too far. She made it clear by saying "I cant give you want you deserve. I can not give you attention. I can not give you respect. My life is complicated. I would like you to move on"

5. I took it as a man without dramas and stupid questions.

6. I've made a mistake sending her a message the next day which now I consider border line cocky/offensive.

7. The very next day I've seen people in the company looking at me as I am a child molester.

8. I have no other issues at my work and my reputation both personal/business was crystal clear. It is a FACT that she initiated a rumor or let the details of our conversation out. She completely ignores me, not looking at me and I guess even trying to avoid me at work.

9. This significantly ruins my reputation.

10. I am very disappointed. I was expecting this relationship to die without having a funeral with hundreds to attend. I am angry. I am upset. I am willing to make this mission of my life to ruin the reputation of this woman. I forgot everything good we've had and now I am a bleeding animal ready to fight any predator untill my last heart beat.

It is bad I know, but I can not resist. God is my witness I was a decent man with honest intentions. Now I want to fight back. My ego is bruised. I am hurt. I want revenge.

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Would you mind posting exactly what you said in the message?

Overall you seem like your head is not clear. You started the post saying you had questions, but you didn't ask any. You keep leaving out key information such as why you ended the relationship in the beginning. You said you "challenged her several times" but didn't say what this meant. Her response saying she wants you to move on, does indicate you might have pushed too far, but you don't admit in what way you pushed too far. And you don't say what you said in that message that changed everyone's attitude.

If they belive her rumour without even talking to you about it, it suggests to me that she gets along better with everyone else than you do. If you have no one to talk to in the office about the change of attitude everyone is giving you, it suggests to me that you are not doing enough to keep up good office relations.

And your last few paragraphs are a bit worrying. Something is wrong, and instead of wondering how you could fix the situation, or even ask us how, you state very poetically and agressivley how you want to retalliate against her and ruin her life. As if that would solve anything for you.