Me and my g/f of a year recently went through an ordeal where she seemed to not feel like I was the same guy she met earlier. (questioning my confidence and the things I do with her and without her) So we talked it out and things are going good, I knew what I was doing wrong and have been working to change it and help get back into a healthy relationship but a few things have arose that I could use some other opinions on.

I'm being more distant and spending less time with her and more with my friends and doing my own thing and regaining my independence and along with that my confidence. Im not cutting her out completely, we still talk everyday and hang out but its definitely less.

She is also doing her own thing such as going clubbing and bar hopping with friends which I'm cool with because she has my trust. She usually talks to me afterwards and tells me about her night and I do the same. But I cant help feeling she is moving away from me and starting to fade away.

She recently changed her profile Pic to one of her with another bloke in the club and then told me in person about one of her othr friends macking on her in the club and buying her drinks and pulling her to the dance floor that night.

Now I have trust and I'm glad she trusts me enough to be straight, but is the recent talk about other guys moving in on her and her changing her picture to her with another guy anything to worry about or should I brush it off? The picture is something that rattled me the most because she didnt change it when there were new ones of us together on a trip, but did with one pic of her with a guy friend at the club. Kind of disrespectful I feel but I know it sounds insecure and afc. Is it merely a test of my confidence or something else? Your guys thoughts?

I don't know her, so I can't tell you what she was thinking, but I would say to her "Hey, babe, I know you are trying to make me jealous by putting up pics of you with blokes, it's cute you think that(those) guy(s) is(are) competition for me, but it's disrespectful." Or something along those lines. Let her know that shit doesn't fly with you. You don't have to take that from her.

But I dont know if that is her motive or not and I feel like approaching it that way would show her that yes it does make me jealous.

Dude, you're over thinking this. Just hold your frame when talk to her. Your frame is that it's disrespectful, and you're not jealous(even if you are inside don't let her know it for any circumstance). Basically, after you let her know it's not making you jealous don't bring up the jealousy part anymore. If she does, hold your frame. The only way you're going to solve this is by talking to her.

Alright man, that makes more sense. I have a feeling that bringing this up is going to start a confrontation between me and her. Im thinking I will talk to her tonight over the phone and It will go down like "Hey I saw your pic on MS with another guy and I feel like its disrespectful towards me that you'd rather be seen with another guy." and she will say "why are you getting insecure/un-confident over it? its just a stupid picture". Should I say think of being in my shoes and seeing that, how would it make you feel to see me with a bunch of other girls?

I would simply say to her "Why do you have a picture of your self and another guy up on facebook?" and then let her explain to you why she does....then you can react based on how she reacts. If she says you are insecure or jealous just simple say in a confedent voice "No I just think its odd that you have a picture with another man as your display picture" then let her talk again...the less you say the better! because if you blabber on you will sound insecure and unintelligent. She will prob then try to explain her self again and that is when you can say "I dont like the fact that you have a picture with another guy up as your profile picture"...If she then starts fighting with you about it or calls you jealous then dont fight back just simply see "Ok I understand...I have to get going have a good night".

Trust me somtimes silence is your best silence is your best weapon and it will drive her nuts that you are so calm about it! also if she reacts this way then I would let her call you and when she does tell her you want a break from each other....honestly it might be hard but its the best thing for you to do! and if she really does like you she will change her bad habits and try hard to make it work...If not then you dont want to be with her any way.

Either way, just get her talking about it. If you are going to go the "How would it make you feel" route, don't say, show. Basically, don't say anything to her about it, but go out and do the same thing she did. That way she will know how it feels, rather than just say "Yeah I PROBABLY..." meaning she doesn't know exactly how it feels.