2month into relation ship still flirt banter and general pua stuff. but i dont go out as much as i used too due too no money also mates have no money, bad time for work SPAM!
My gf (hb8 party girl) has been hanging with new group of ppl (works with them aswell) and always going out diff place, not seen her in a week (saw her too much for the past 2month probs) and she would still rather go out than see me. understandable seeing as all i have to offer is a night in?. this was my first though but surly that is part of a relationship. need help? advise? views?

thanks

Heres the deal man...If she would rather go out every night then hang out with you then that is deff not good! If the two of you are a couple and she has not made time for you at all in a week! that horrible news! She is being selfish and to be honest you prob shouldnt be with a girl who ignores you for a week....imo you should use some push pull with her and dont suck up to her at all until she is acting the way you want her to! If that doesnt work I have a feeling you should cut your losses and break it off because shes not the girl for you.

Why do you like her? do you like being in a relationship or do you like being with her?

Taste,

When a chick wants to get with you he will get with you regardless of going out.
A night in means some drinking and (hopefully) a good lay.

It sounds to me like she is not interested enough.

So don't even deal with it.
Go out on your own with your home boys and do not make an issue about her going out.

Plus, she is hanging out with new people from work. This is always a game changer. Different people means different variables that will be influencing her.

Concentrate on yourself and if she is actually interested she will start the chase on her own.

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When I meet my gf I was unemployed and totally broke, shit my apartment didn't even have furniture because the roommates moved out early. When I couldn't pay rent she whipped out her checkbook. When my car broke after 2 weeks of knowing each other she let me use her car while mine was in the shop. We spent a shit load of time together and never really got bored of each other. I guess what I'm saying is that if the girl really likes you and you do a good job of keeping her interested than money shouldn't really matter.

thanks for the replies.
going to concentrate on myself alot more and if she dont like who i am then shes gone. but im still gonna be kl with her.

in answer to your question darkone i like the fact she is strong minded and independent, but also has that other lovable side to her, dangerous combination!

one question, started acting distant last night, shorter txts e.c.t and she already asked if i was ok.was like, yeah fine acting cool like nothing was bother me but still distant. correct? later that night i got a txt saying '

gf 'yeah start at 6 lol.. ahh come to me i want you baby..u still at your mates? xx'

how should i act after getting a txt like that when i was previously being distant. possible responses? looking for mindset rather that actualy respone. i though it was a good idea to reply positively going along with it i.e rewarding her.

just went thru the same situation. break-up with her. seriously. i kno exactly whats up. 2 things can happen: you break it off and keep ur dignity -or- she slowly becomes more and more distant and finds an excuse to dump you.


just dump her dude

Yes, reward for good behavior, but KEEP BEING that same, sorta distant person, kind of slighted, until you have gotten what you deserve. She knows she's slighted you, and that you're not impressed. The undertones are there. If you suddenly go all full on and positive at the slightest bit of attention, then she knows that if she screws up like that again, recompense is only a sentence away, so there's no point behaving or appreciating you.

Reward her decent text message, with a decent one back - a bit longer, and a little bit more positive than your previous short ones, but not too much. Then she knows she's making progress but needs to try harder Once she's behaved the way you think you deserve, you can reward her fully with your full attention.

It's like Pavlov's dog. As soon as she slips again, go distant again. She'll learn.

cheers ppl learnt alot from dis. Im going uni in a month and she got a load of new mates she has a quality time with. no point stressing! improve myself.
think this might of run its course