What up homies

I'm in this odd metastable state right now on the cusp of a relationship that could be amazing. I've known the girl for about 6 years and I recently found my way out of her friend zone. We've gone on a few afternoon and evening dates, kissed quite a bit, talked up a storm, it feels really natural and correct but something that's been killing me lately is the slow pace at which everything is developing. I'm feeling like I'm so close and that it could fall any minute even there's nothing to indicate that. It's my retarded humanity drawing conclusions where there are none to be drawn, making patterns where there's no correlation between cases. Some IOIs that I've received include her calling and texting me and her initiating some kisses. In fact after each of our longer dates she texted me 4 long messages how much fun she had. Why am I so insecure? It looks like I got this settled. I was so worked up last night I had to have some wine and valium. Never done that before and won't do it again even though it was perfectly effective in screwing my head back on straight.
What mindset should I take? How do I keep myself from going insane with impatience and insecurity?
-AtbH

I also used to have these feelings.... I think I recognize your name from another post. Did you just get out a long term relationship?

I'm asking because that is what really fucked me, and I'm sure a lot of guys and is also the reason I started pickup. I wasn't happy with me, I was insecure in a nutshell.

Don't get hooked on this one girl. Probably the best thing that I did was to have several open relationships at once. Yes girls are into this, especially in the 20 - 25 age bracket.

I feel it helped because yeah these girls were seeing me, and on and off other guys. But they kept dating me. Why? How did I justify this in my head? It must be me, they really wanna see me and the 'other guy' isn't any better. Even when they would question me on it and how I keep my cool. I would respond, yeah I think about it and yeah it affects me a little, but you are here and we both know who the best is then. When you acquire the ability to deal with that situation, normal relationship insecurities went away.

_________________
Smile and Be your BEST Self.

Buck up budy its make it or break it time! women dont like pussies (sorry if im a little harsh) women like confident men. When I started dating my gf I was scared sick on how I was gunna ask her to be my gf...you know what I did? one night after a month of dating I said fuck it! I grabed her one night when we wer out gave her a kiss and told her I wanted to be my gf....she smiled of course and said yes.

The fact is she likes you but if you act afc she wont for long...she is wants you to step up and be the man...whats the worst that could happen? she says no? big deal! who cares? what do you have to loose???? shes gunna ditch you soon any way if you dont make a move.

I'm being confident without coming off as pushy or anything. I have a good impression and a good thing going as I said she texted me some long ass txts after a few of our afternoon outings. I'm able to keep it together when I'm with her but I still feel a bit insecure.... not as much as I did before because my emo-center understands that she's just another girl.