Hey guys, first i would like to thank you all for the opportunity to write on this blog.

As much as think I am an experienced guy when it comes to women, I find out every single day that I have a long way to go on my path to mastering them. There's a situation that has been happening to me for the past couple of months now, which is very very awkward and twisted. Ok, I shall begin.

I go to college and started "seeing" this girl about two months ago. She is a very cute, hot body, REDHEAD. She was such a sweetheart on the first couple of weeks we were dating, she would make me cookies, she would try to see me all the time, always trying to pleasure me. It was great! I was like, wow, i've never had a girl treat me this way!

I told her I wanted her to be my girlfriend within a month and a half we were seeing each other. Her answer was that she was not ready for a relationship. That was really a bummer to me; I thought this girl liked me as much as I liked her. I thought I’d seen the connection.

Anyways, there was a period when we didn't see each other for almost 2 weeks, mostly because she blew me off a couple of times, and I did the same to play along. I thought i had lost her then, until one night she wanted to sleep over and since then we see each other twice or three times a week.

Now that you guys know a little bit about the girl, I gotta tell you about the GUY. Her ex bf! The kid is probably the biggest chump i have ever met. They broke up 3 months before i started seeing her, after a 2 year relationship.

This kid is always at the same social gatherings as us, which sucks, and I never know how to react towards the redhead. I usually give her space and don't show any public affection. In contrast, he is always either staring at her with his arms crossed or he wont leave her sight for a second. If I'm talking to her, he is grilling us.

I know for a fact that they still hang out. She tells me they have been friends for so long, bla bla bla. But that she likes me in a different way and so forth. There is a lot of gossip around, but i've heard she wanted to go back out with him at one point, but she denies it all. As a matter of fact, everything that I question her on in respect to her relationship and feelings towards her ex bf, she usually denies.

I really got attached to this girl, and I like her although EVERYONE tells me she’s no good. I feel like lately she has been playing a lot of games with me, like she'll tell me we'll hang out later on and then she says she has too much work or something. I used to be on the top of my game with girls, before I met this one which is driving completely insane. That’s why I seek your help.

My questions:
1. What do you think is happening here? Is she really trying to go back out with her ex bf and is keeping me around as a rebound? Or is she telling me the truth, they are just friends?

2. How should I act in social gatherings when her ex bf is around? Should I be showing how i feel about her in front of him? Or should I just play it cool and pretend nothing is really happening or bothering me?

3. What is the best way to make this girl want me? Or maybe is it just not worth it? Which games should I play with her to make her think A LOT about me? ( I would like to do it no matter what. Love the challenge!)

****THANK YOU**** I DON’T WANT TO BE THE CHUMP HER EX BF IS ALREADY*************

1.) Nobody wants to step up and seduce her. It sounds like you're both chasing her. She should be chasing you.

2.) Never show negative emotions. It ruins the vibe. Game her right in front of him. If he's an AFC, he'll resort to doing something incredibly stupid to get her approval, which will only make him look worse. And don't be bitter towards the kid just because he likes this chick. He could actually be a pretty nice dude.

3.) Stop chasing her, for one. You have this chick on a pedestal. Women want men with value higher than theirs, so stop acting like your value is lower than hers. Use the search button to find articles on women's attraction switches.

CAN I GET MORE FEEDBACK ON THIS GUYS???

I'm in a similar situation. I dated a girl, lost her to another guy, they were in a relationship, she feel head over heals for him, he broke up with her, and now me and her are back to what we had.

He really got into her head. She always talks about him, but we hangout all the time and have fun together. I think I got myself into a sticky situation, but I have learned a lot about myself through all of this.

What I have learned.......

Don't ever be negative around women. Being angry and throwing fits gets you no where with women. I swear to god, they do things intentionally to get us upset. The man that is indifferent and doesn't react to them is the man the girl will take home at the end of the night. If you are having a good time, she will be having a good time.

(Example: I was out at the club the other night. Her ex was there and she was talking to him and every other dude in the joint. I might have hung out with her for a total of thirty minutes and we came together! Did I get upset, heck no! I had a great time. My night was not determined by the outcome between her and me. I befriended all of her friends and made sure that they were having a great time and I talked to as many different people as I could. At the end of the night when all was said and done, her friends were in love with me and all the guys she was talking to ended making chumps out of themselves, even the ex. (I think we are our own worst enemies. If we can conqueror our pride and be indifferent to what happens, we can have anyone we want.)

When we were leaving the club, she asked me if I was upset because we didn't hangout that much (a total ping). with a smile on my face I told her I had a great time and hoped that she did as well. she gave me a hug (another ping) and took off with her friends. Five minutes later, I get a text from her asking me to come over to her place.)

so......

1. Don't be negative
2. Build a good relationship with her friends
3. Most guys are chumps and they will weed themselves out, giving them your attention only makes things easier for them.
4. Don't always be available. Distances builds attraction.
5. There are tons of women out there, don't give all your energy to one

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LOL! This is my roommate ^!! I was reading it like, what the fuck? How drunk was I this night??? I don't remember ever losing a girl to another guy!!

I should show him this post, he fucked his game up just last week cus he got all pissed off and macho...

Wow, this really made my night!

(Stay off my laptop son!)

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