Guys been dating my gf for over 7 months, she recently messed up and kissed one of her guy friends. She says she loves me blah blah blah, admits to messing up and was balling. How do I play this situation. Do I straight out excommunicate her form my life cause half of me wants to do this or how do I act. Thanks

don't necessarily follow my advice...
but personally, i would get rid of her because in my opinion she can't be trusted. she doesn't have enough self control. mind you, i don't know her.

was she drunk when she kissed him?

No not at all, which to me makes it even worse in my mind. She first actually lied about it but I could tell from her body language something was up. We had been recently fighting but were still dating. I like her, however she can easily be replaced as there are tons of replacements out there. I was thinking can you ever really trust someone who messes up like that ever again. I can live with it if I choose to and it won't affect my inner game but the point is what does that say about myself if I did let that fly...nothing good..., to me thats totally afc and she should have not made that decision period...she knows I don't put up with second class behavior and dishonesty..

yeah if she was dishonest about it that would be reason enough to break it off with her. if you let things like that fly she will most probably do it again. i have a very strong opinion on girls who do things such as this, i was hurt too many times back in my afc days.

sorry to say i think u need to give her the cold shoulder now. Plenty more out there.

Update.I basically gave her the cold shoulder and said it was over. She then started crying like crazy. Called and left a voicemail crying and saying how she just wants one more chance but I wont give it to her. She also texted me saying she loves me (she has never said this before) saying just give her one more chance she messed up. I wasn't answering either, then her two best girlfriends show up at my door and are begging me to give her another chance and saying that she will change and I need to talk to her, and they were totally on my side of things. Basically its still out there but I am leaning towards getting rid of her just because she messed up

Get rid of her. You're a PUA now, you can find a new one easy

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Trust me and give her one more chance... She already felt what's the effect of doing that by what you did.... she's begging you man, and that's what is really good... Get back to her and if she does it one more time then you should get rid of her

I did that once but my gf gave me one more chance and now, we are really happy together...

Yeah, dude.

Everyone commits mistakes, you should forgive her. That is, if you really like her. Don't let pride stand in the way.

Sometimes PUA's get so caught up in the "alpha male stance" that they forget what this is all about (at least for me), feelings, and being happy.

If she reacted like that, then she surely regrets it. You should give her another chance.

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Oh god. Don't listen to all the "please I'll never do it again.. I'm sorry" crap. She felt really guilty when she did it, but now that you gave her the cold shoulder shes starting to feel alone too. If you forgive her for doing what she did she'll do it again, and the next time she wont tell you about it.


I wouldn't think twice, I'd get rid of her and cut off communication for a while. Think logically, not emotionally; you might even feel bad for her when she tries crawling back to you, but the reality is you'll never forget what she did. If you stay with her, you'll have mixed feelings deep down about your relationship with her later on (thinking about this one 'kiss'), and arguments will arise because it'll still itch at you.


Did you ever see yourself being with a woman that kisses another man and gets away with it? Forget about who the girl is for a second. Are you a man of integrity or a man that lets things like this slip, no matter how sorry she is?


If you let her go, you'll feel sorry for her and wonder if it was the right thing to do. The reality was, it WAS THE ONLY THING TO DO! You'll wake up one morning a month from now glad that you did, especially since you know you didn't give in to her apologies. You'll have raised your own value in yourself knowing that you don't put up with this shit. Don't let something like this slip; Im sure you guys went over the rules loud and clear when you got together. And what she did was (or at least should have been!) a dealbreaker. You'll never marry this one so spend your time more productively with a faithful, more worthy girl.

Milk her for it.

If she indeed loves you, everything will fall to your advantage. Subtly dangle that guilt over her head and give her the chance to make up for what she did. If you still love her even after the incident, then, you get the benefit of being loved even more because of your seemingly understanding nature. I f you don't, then you get to enjoy her for one last time before you move on to the next girl.

But seriously, think it over. And don't just consider your feelings. I know that's difficult given the situation. But if she indeed loves you and has cheated on you, she might be as devastated as you are with the circumstance. Girls are pretty hard on themselves too. If you still feel the same way about each other, then continue your relationship and become a wiser, more cautious pair.

The best lessons in life are learned the hardest way. And the same should go for the guy who kissed your girlfriend! Beat him up! That should teach him a thingor two about boundaries. lol.

Milk her for it.

If she indeed loves you, everything will fall to your advantage. Subtly dangle that guilt over her head and give her the chance to make up for what she did. If you still love her even after the incident, then, you get the benefit of being loved even more because of your seemingly understanding nature. I f you don't, then you get to enjoy her for one last time before you move on to the next girl.

But seriously, think it over. And don't just consider your feelings. I know that's difficult given the situation. But if she indeed loves you and has cheated on you, she might be as devastated as you are with the circumstance. Girls are pretty hard on themselves too. If you still feel the same way about each other, then continue your relationship and become a wiser, more cautious pair.

The best lessons in life are learned the hardest way. And the same should go for the guy who kissed your girlfriend! Beat him up! That should teach him a thingor two about boundaries. lol.

You know what. I say forgive her.
Don't worry about looking like something.
You want to forgive her. I can tell you do, so do it. Tell her you forgive her.
BUT don't let her do it again.
Then I wouldn't have any second thoughts of dumping her like you do now.

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dude i say giver her another chance.

Usually i'd say fuck her. If she cheats on you then leave her, stick to your principles. BUT since you already did that and she begged you for another chance i think you should give her one. She got the message that you are not a push over and wont let someone cheat on you. So maybe you should let her back in. You never know how it might turn out.

Obviously if she does anything close to that again dump her ass. Good Luck man! And ye, maybe you should have a 'chat' with the guy who kissed her.