| Need some advice. I've been seeing/dating this hb8-9 for 7months now and we've been together in a relationship for 1 month. She talks about getting married and the works. (I figure many women mention it and don't take it seriously, besides it's too early)
About myself, in the past I've had many insecurities which I've fixed. I used to be a tall pretty boy and it was the only way I could get beautiful women. However, at the age of 23 I'm not a pretty boy anymore, and I work out 5 days a week, gotten better with public speaking/sarging, and just graduated college to help void these insecurities so that when I meet a chick that's right for me, I'll be the alpha male and have nothing to worry about. And I'm very good at making women feel special and applying to their needs, almost common sense now. I have the attitude and game, but something is missing if I can't tame a girl such as her.
(Enough chit chat, now to the point) this past weekend my chick just became a go-go dancer, she asked me about it several times and I supported her. It doesn't bother me, as long as she's my girl and no one elses I don't care who looks at her. However, I know for a fact when a women is into you she calls, texts, all the time, but if no contact is made in 4 days, somethings up. I was going to call her, but didn't want to seem needy so I looked at her twitter page and BAAM!!! right in my face it shows a conversion of her and some guy talking about meeting up, going to the movies and another day going to his place after his mom leaves for "fun". She writes how she sometimes feel bad and feel she's going to hell, and how she gets bored of guys after a while as a justification. This guy works with record producers and is well known, but obviously not rich yet if he lives at home, but clearly met her while she was dancing.
I feel no amount of game would get my girl back as now I think it's mostly a money-going groupie thing and only a matter of time before she would replace me. I'm getting pretty successful myself, not rich, but well off for my age with many more goals. She's go-go dancing to meet better candidates and I'm on the backburner (even though technically I'm not supposed to know about this), but in my eyes she's dead to me now. Worst of all, I never saw it coming, she goes to college and I never have to spend money on her other than the things we do together. Therefore she gives the allusion that she has set goals for herself to allude the fact that she is just another gold digger, clever... she plays her cards well, I haven't met a type like her, most women are too boring to have the sex appeal she has or have no goals/dreams to accomplish, but she has the allusion of both. I guess your typical "I'm stripping to pay for med school" routine. Who knows, she probably left another guy to be with me and figured she'd just keep upgrading.
So here's the question... Do I end it by telling her I know about the other guy, (sounds forward but the way i got the info is kinda afc-ish) or do I tell her I'm not into her anymore and walk away with what balls I have left?.... I know I shouldn't have looked at her page, but I was more than curious and definitely not perfect, the lack of trust was not from her go-go dancing, but from her sudden absence.
Also... Where did I go wrong, was it ever possible to avoid her falling for the other guy in the first place, thus keeping her only wanting me? I would keep her, but now I have no trust in her. She'll most likely call tomorrow and say "well you didn't call me either or I didn't want to be too clingy" Yes, the absence happened for 3 days a few times before, but we were just dating, so I didn't care, but the excuses are always flawless and understandable. But if I call, she responds which is why I don't take notice with a "hi baby...I miss you when do I get to see you" as if she wants the relationship to work. I'm telling you, I feel like I'm talking to professional female pua if that's possible. What am I doing wrong here?
Thanks for all the feedback, really appreciate it -Kizz
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