Hi guys,as my othe rposts ive had a few little problems with my gilr, one of which i highlighted was her best bloke mate...

Anyway, recently she has been acting like a bitch to me(eg cancelling dates, seeing her mates instead of me ect), which she herself actually apologized to me for the other other day without me saying, so she knew she was doing it...I just felt like something was not quite right...

ANYWAY, so i was meant to be seeing her monday night (arranged sunday) but she did say she might have to go and work in the evening (a 2 hours drive, she tests and rides horses for people)and would be back to late so it was 50/50. Come Monday i spoke to her at 2pm and she said she'd let me know about tonight, annoying for me as i wanted to make other plans if i wasnt seeing her. Anyway i rang her at 5.30 aftr no contact to see, she said that it was cancelled and she didnt have to work BUT said she may have be having to do other work that was only 40 mins away and shed let me know. This pissed me off. Turns out that was off too and she actually said she was going to just chill out and watch a movie at home with Max her best male mate. Now this REALLY pissed me off, not only had i waited up on her but now she was cancelling to see her best male mate. FUCK!

Anyway, so i decided to go out for a drink with a couple of mates take my mind off it. They all said what she did wasnt on at all. I just like to mention at this point that she had told me when she opologized for being a bitch to me she said it was because she was seeing me to much and her friends not at all.

The night goes on,i text her at 12 at nigth saying i had a good night and all, she text back an hour later saying shed had a good night. anyway, after my friends tsaying that she MAY be cheating on me, that that might be a reason It finally got the better of me. Now her house is about 10 mins off route from my retern journey, so id thought id drive by just to see if his car was still there...i did...his car was there and all lights in the house were off ect a little sidelight type light in her room, (certains shut)...i know i shouldnt have done this but i had to check.

What should i make of this. I obviously wont bring it up as she will know what happened...did i go to far ? i feel quilty for it but at he same time im now extremely suspicious that something may be going on here....

You are acting like a crazy person, snooping around, chasing after her. Chill man, if she is cheating on you maybe it's because you aren't satisfying her enough and if you are you have nothing to worry about.

I'm not even going to touch on the best male friend thing,6 words friend, zoned, chill, the, fuck, out.


So yar she may be cheating on you, who cares? if she is she is, if you think she might be split with her. How would our advice help the situation, sitting here reading our opinions on whether she is cheating on you or not will just make you gather more false evidence in your head that she is.

In short, if you are doing something to warrant her cheating maybe you shouldn't be together. And do women in happy great relationships cheat?

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I agree with you it may have been to far. However the build up to it hasnt really been taken into consideration.


"So yar she may be cheating on you, who cares?" - Well, to be honest mate, I do care seeing as its my gf.

Ah "mate" the conversational teaspoon of sugar lol Anyways I should have elaborated, if she is cheating on you do you think it is her fault or yours? Do you think you will love her less by assuming it is her fault? Why might she cheat on you? Have you done something (or not)?

In short, I am a little more free spirited about relationships you cannot own a person, she loves you, sleeps with you and spends time with you, am I right? Maybe you should be thankful for that and raise your game if you want to have her all t yourself.

Plus it seems like she is in control here, you are letting her reschedule and you are flexible to her whims. Stop being so nice, form this moment forth she fits around your schedule. Compromise is one thing pandering after her is another. Hope this helps

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DUMP HER NOW. She obviously is cheating.. and even if she isn't, she's still rescheduling to spend time with her friends and you don't need that shit. Don't take this shit, get rid of her.

Obviously you have done something wrong which made her cheat, but still, a good person doesn't cheat and there's plenty of decent chicks out there.

Take my advice and kick her cheating arse out of the relationship.

Why, oh why, do you let her schedule your life. If you stay with her, you need to work on this hardcore. You call her, she doesn't know if she can hang out. You tell her you are doing something else, go do something else. She will be fine alone (or not) for the night, do your own thing and don't worry about it. If she is cheating on you, you will find out eventually. Then you can finally get rid of her and move on to better things.

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