Hi guys, I met a hb 9 around January this year. We dated a bit and i played it cool to win her over and now she is my giirlfriend. Since being together we have been seeing more and more of eachother where now she stays at mine every night! I love her staying over and am gettin quite used to it. There is one issue that has come apparant now though.... MONEY!

I am a doorman and currently dont have a day job, so just work about 3 nights on average. Everytime we go out i bring enough money to cover what we are doing but have not really been able to afford to pay for the both of us, as much as i would like to.

The thing is when we first me i used the old ' never buy girls drinks' and the 'go halves until you know she likes me for me and not my money'! except now she thinks im tight cuz im not in a position to treat her and spend loads of money even though she thinks i have got money because i have it in my wallet when we do go out!

She seems to get everything payed for her when she goes out with her friends and thinks a girl should'nt have to pay for anything! Now its bothering her that i still do the half thing. What she doent realise is i have to pay for rent, bills, food... Which i cook her also. And she also expects me to pay for her when we go out now!

I really do love her but this has become an issue that cant be ignored.

Also she went to her friends for advice and from what i gather they told her to dump me.... She loves me and says i am perfect in every other way, so wont leave me, but i dont like the way she expects a man to pay for everything!

Can i get some advice on this matter please guys... It has made me feel quite inferior to be honest!

Blame her Daddy! HELLO CREDIT CRUNCH Missy?


No seriously, there are two options and I will give my verdict (at the end)

1- Keep to your morals this is one of the most Alpha Male characteristics like you implied: never buy girls drinks' and the 'go halves, if she cannot respect you then leave her.

2.- Get a day job, something that can provide and pay for her [If you take this I am qualified to hand you the BETA Male award], but it could improve your career and still a good idea.

My Verdict:

Most guys buy things for women because they feel that they have lower status that they do not qualify for the girl, "Oh she is so much better then me" and through buying things etc they feel that the girl will like them more. (VERY BETA!). I mean Beta males have the mindset that if they buy a girl something that they will give them some action, this may work in the short term but is not a good end game.

I would keep your morals and what you believe in or you will get hurt in the end (not just financially). You should talk to her about this issue and understand why it is such a big deal? and if she cannot get past this problem that maybe you two should break up.

Good luck player.

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"That's how you become great, man. Hang your balls out there!"--Copy store clerk (Jerry Maguire)

Ok mate, thanks for that Workaholic.... I see your point. I Think i will do a bit of both. Try and get a day job (Which i have been doing for a while!) and stick to my guns, i will treat her but when i feel its right to not because she expects it. Prob is all her friends seem to have bf's that will leave themselves with no money or in debt to look after them and treat them... I say i aint goin down that road.... EVER! Those lads are stupid, and a bad role model for us as the women 'expect' to be looked after all the time!

I have all the confidence that you will rectify this situation. Good luck with the job search.

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"That's how you become great, man. Hang your balls out there!"--Copy store clerk (Jerry Maguire)

Wow yeah....this women sounds like she might have been a little spoiled as a child. If a women cant see past a job or money then screw it. If you wer a lazy bumb siting on the couch all day then that diffrent but If you have a job that you enjoy and pays the bills then she has no right to judge you!

I would let her know that she is judging you based on your salary and that she can make her mind up....either she wants to be with you the guy who will support her,be their for her, have fun with her, and protect her, or she can go find some stock broker who will buy her a benz....tell her money might buy you a nice coat but it doesnt keep you warm at night.

If you can get another job I would try that...but Im guessing you are young? in your 20's? mabey college?