Ok so heres the problem. I got a gf and i am finding it very difficult to ignore her interactions with other guys. I dont know why - maybe its because shes "mine" now but her touching other guys stuff, playing around with them just starts to make me angry. I fewel as if though I am being paranoid and insecure - but I want to make sure. Do you guys jsut ignore it - be indifferent to it or do u guys take charge and punish her for doing this. I only say this because I told her to wait for me at this place and when I went there she wasnt there. So I left i didnt wait that long, I was in there for around 3-4 mins. But as i come out and go talk to my friends somewhere near - she comes up from the direction of the libary. I go to her and we do as we were planning to do - when I ask her where she was. She says she was in the libary but some boy came and ran away with her bag. And today she has left a message on his facebook talking aobut him running away with the bag. Now I dont kno what to make of this... what should i do? AM i just being insecure?

if it was just this one time it's fine. completely ignore it. even if she is just talking to guys or just around other guys, it's fine. if you make a big deal out of it then it's gonna mess you up and make you look insecure. right now you have nothing to worry about. so just ignore it. i'm telling you this from experience. unfortunately, i was in your situation and i made a big deal out of it. and after i made a big deal out of it i guess it made me look afc. and then that's when the whole downward spiral starts. so if you wanna save yourself the trouble just act chill and unphased by it all.

Wait, wait... What do you mean with "She touches the other guys' "stuff"?"

Well, I think you're being a bit paranoid. Unless she is touching the guys in a sexual way or doing something very offensive towards you, she is just being human. It's normal to become a bit jealous and paying extra attention to what she's doing. But you have to realize that it all comes down to trust. Do you trust her? Ask yourself that question and follow your instincts based on that.

Lol " she touches other guys stuff..." it sounds dirty when its by it self. Other guys stuff i mean like she plays around with their folders or books - unconscously. I want to trust her - and I think I do. it just I dont know how to get rid of all the doubts and insecurities. How do you guys handle it?

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That's a good logical reason to accept flirting, but I don't feel that gives consolation for someone suffering an emotional reaction to the flirting.

Heck it doesn't even sound like she's flirting yet, just fiddling with their books!

In my experience, this kind of insecurity ALWAYS comes back to your own self-confidence in being able to attract a girl. To feel like you would "lose" her to someone else so easily is to feel like someone "better" than you will steal her away.

Am I right? Is that what you feel?

This mindset can ONLY go downhill. If things are good, they will go bad. If things are bad, they will get worse. So - regardless if the "bag & facebook" event meant anything, it's pointless getting worked up about it. The only way to make her like you is to be attractive, and to have these insecurities floating about in your head will just make you unattractive.