My girlfriend and I used to have wonderful passionate sex frequently when we first started dating 7 months ago. These days it takes quite a bit for me to get her to put out. We have been making love once or twice week seeing each other three days a week, but with spending the night together their are about 8-10 opportunities a week to make love. I'm good in bed and when we have sex its great. However it is becoming very difficult for me to seduce her. She has a few standard reasons she won't fuck. 1. She is tired from working, or has to wake up early 2. She is preoccupied or stressed about something random. 3. She just flat is not interested. Reasons 1 and 2 are acceptable whenever, but I begin to think are becoming cover ups for reason three. And that's where I run into my seduction issues. No matter what I do, I can't make any headway with her. I have trouble getting her to make out with me. I have tried so many different approaches. She's eclectic in how she wants to be seduced. So i try throwing her up against a wall and being rough don't work. Today I lit candles and gave her a massage and then started kiss the back of her neck and tried that romantic angle..nothing. I try waking her up in the middle night rubbing her, I try waking her in the morning sensually. I try kino. I can't get anywhere. Now when we do have sex it such a rare occurence that were not on the same level our sexual rhythms are off and the sex is unmoving.

I could never picture her cheating on me. earlier tonight today we talked about her day she mentioned she hung out with ex. I asked what they did without an accusing tone. She got really defensive and said they just hung for ten minutes. She has had a platonic relationship with this guy longer than we've been dating and even used to tell me how bad he is in bed. BUT I no longer believe this to be the case. because of her reaction to my question and my seduction tactics I have nothing else to attribute the lack of sex to. I recently returned from a three week vacation we have had sex once since then :/

I'm a very good emotional companion to her and Im afraid i'm on the path towards becoming her friend. I need a sex life stimulant. help.

Well man, I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years. She is a really beautiful girl with a very well balanced personality and we get along fine. Nevertheless, I find myself disinterested in having sex with her. For me, the true definition of "sex" is probably similar to how it used to be in our caveman years: Man is attracted to woman. Man does mating ritual. Woman submits. They fuck. Man looks for next woman.

The types relationships we have today are so far fetched from our caveman days that it has left a social rift in modern civilization. Man was not designed to stay with one woman for a long period of time to continually have sex with her over many years. It's just not natural. It's sick almost if you think about it.

Of course, I'm talking about men here. Woman are different, I know. I don't know a lot about the details of your situation, but it sounds like you are trying to have sex with your girlfriend a lot. That could wear a person down. I become quite disinterested in having sex with a girl who demands it continuously. Maybe the fact that you keep asking for it and that you need it more than she does is making her actually want it less and less.

Here's how my world works. Please don't be judgemental. I love my girlfriend and stay true to her in my heart. But with matters of the rod, it would be a pity if every beautiful woman on this earth did not have an opportunity to be doust with it. I have the best of both worlds really. I have a loving woman at home and someone I can really talk to and I have an amazing sex life with multiple beautiful women on the side. My girlfriend is not pushy, but she definitely is willing to have sex more than I am, and for me that keeps a good balance in our relationship. I'm sure if you become less needy of sex with your girlfriend she will come around and you will hold the power once again.

You have to avoid getting into this trap. Once sex becomes routine for a girl she will see it as boring. Even if she's crazy horny, you can't do the same thing OVER and OVER again, because it's just so predictable. I know us men don't mind and we just like getting off, but for girls its all about the experience.


Don't make sex routine. It shouldn't be the case where whenever you're alone its a chance to 'go at it'. Sex needs to be unpredictable and different to be exciting. We humans find that excitement from tension, unpredictability (eg fear/surprise), and/or new partners.


When the sex gets old for me I start whipping out the big guns. One day me and my gf had sex that was so predictable and monotonous, even I felt like it was bad. The next day I went out to a sex store and bought flavored condoms and handcuffs. I grabbed her hands, cuffed her, and left her to sit there for a while. A few minutes in, after a little bit of teasing, she was begging for it.


Sex has to keep evolving. It's ok to 'make love' every now and then in your bed, under the sheets, slowly. Quickies are fine too and a good girl will not only say yes but will enjoy them. However, when its time for exciting sex, you better find some new places to do it, some new positions, or some new toys/clothes. It has to keep changing and get exciting. I've turned my girl into such a kinky bitch that sometimes she goes like "what have you turned me into!!" after sex. it's hilarious.

It doesn't matter if you're a mandingo and have the best sex moves on the planet. It'll get boring if its the same routine over and over.