Alright I have a girlfriend and I payed for the movie and dinner blah blah blah but now that it's a definite relationship do I continue to pay all the time? Where is the limit? Please elaborate! I know I'm not there to buy affection but I'll do the gentleman things and such.

Where are you located? In UK every single girl insisted on paying her own part, and was surprised by the idea of guy paying for her. I didn't try any PUA tricks, it seems to be the standard here.

In States I've heard it's different, with guy paying being quite common.

Im from the states, so i'll say it from my perspective: In the beginning of the relationship the guy pays more, but later on its perfectly natural for the girl to help chip in too. For example you can pay for dinner, but she can pay for drinks, or dessert somewhere else. Maybe you can pay for a meal, then she can get the next one. I would doubt that a girl would really expect you to pay for ALL her meals (thats crazy right?). But as a man, I feel you should be ready to pay for more stuff in the beginning. Thats my two cents! Good luck

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yeah man, that's a subject i've battled with too. my feelings on it are this: most decent girls will not infinitely try to catch a ride on your dollar. if they do, then they aren't the type of person i want to be in a serious relationship with. that being said, i have no problem with paying for shit as long as there is some reciprocation. it doesn't have to be 50/50, but it shouldn't be so far out of whack that your feeling taken advantage of.

i also think that if you invite them out somewhere, its ok for you to pay, and vice versa. just say "tonight is my treat. next time you can treat me." or something along those lines.

good luck!

Its ok to pay for your GF or a girl who you've been laying but for a target who you've been sarging,dont pay(as in drinks). Dinner as in a day 2, i dont know(never set up a dinner date for a day 2-lol).

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my gf has always insisted on paying for herself ever since the first date.. she often pays for me sometimes which i'd prefer her not to but she loves doing it. most other girls seem to let you pay for them if you offer

a legit girl should start feeling bad about letting you pay all the time. so eventually it should start being around 50/50. start out with the gentleman role though, offer to pay for shit. let her pay for little things if she offers.. with a tiny bit of resistance though so you don't look like a cheapskate

You should have let her pay for a few things right from the begining. You could pay for say 60% of the time and she could for the remaining 40% whenever you guys are out. You might end up paying more or your bills may be higher but its not about the money its about having a good time and no one taking advantage of the other.

When I'm out with someone, I'd normally take the first check and just act like I know they want to pay but I'll pay it this time and they could pick up the tab the next time we are out.

She should have been offering by now !!

I DON'T PAY FOR SHIT! AND I DON'T PLAN TO

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