Hi fellas! Ive been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 4 months and it's been a wonderful time. However, in recent times things have gone downwards and she seems less interested. She has always been the "needy" one, sending lots of text-messages and called me. Three days ago we had a fight and I think she's putting up a shit-test. Question is how to handle this?

During the last three days she has NEVER initiated contact trough text-messaging or other options such as called me. I dont want the relationship to end so I have texted her like twice a day and got brief answers. But I have learned trough PUA material that I MUST NOT behave like needy so I wonder what to do with this shit test?

Any ideas?

This is typical and like I have said a million times most relationships follow the same paterns or stages. You are in the "make or break stage"....every thing seems perfect and then out of the blue she starts to shit test you like crazy, starts acting moody, and doesnt seem to care? yeah your not alone it happens to 99% of men at about the 2-4 month point.

What do you need to do? You need to calibrate or mirror her actions so that you seem slightly less interested then her. Also if she continues to act distant or start to fight with you about dumb shit then you need to let her know that it is not ok and that perhaps you need some space because you dont feel she is being fare or respectful. trust me If you truly are a good bf after a couple days she will realize what she has lost and she will come back to you sucking up.

Women are very much manipulative and what she is doing right now is testing you to see if you are going to put up with her shit and become an push over or if you will be a man and stick up for your self. Women want to be with a man not a boy.

By the way if you continue to call her and act like you will always be there for her no matter what then she will either cheat on you with another guy, or she will leave you and sleep with another guy. Thats the cold hard truth....the good news is that if you can work through this there is a good chance that your relationship will become stronger and you will become closer.

I agree with 'dark one'...give her a taste of her own medicine, see how she likes it. If she continues with the same sh*t, drop her a$$.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

I get shit tested if my GF has a problem with something. I usually get really cool and make her work for my conversation. I don't ask her straight away if there even is a problem either.

I came up with a tactic if there is tension in the air and it has worked for me so far..

I try to break her bitch shield with negs eventually she will engage in small talk dialogue. We will continue until I feel the tension has somewhat dissipated usually shown if she breaks her poker face and laughs or some other gesture. The whole time I don't smile and I don't try to be C/F until she starts to break.

Shields down:I'll go into a mini cold read, when she looks like she's feeling comfortable I'll ask her "whats up"?

We mutually agree on the subject matter of the dispute and then its resolution.

Sometimes I feel like I'm playing Texas hold'em and we are trying to call each others bluff.

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you can fake it till you make it, but if it feels REAL go with the flow!

I kind of do the same thing. However, I ask right off the bat, "Is there a problem?" This makes her think about the problem. Plus, she always says "No". I just say "Ok" and just don't say anything to her. And if she tries to talk to me, I give her short one word answers. After and 2-4 minutes she'll tell me what she is thinking. I guess whatever works for you.