What do you when your girlfriend is showing another guy ioi's?

Walk up to her, say you need to talk. Leave the room, tell her that flirting with other guys is not ok and is disrespectful to the relationship and you. Then tell her that she was in fact flirting with him. She will try to convince you otherwise but keep a strong frame.

IOI's aren't necessarily threatening. They are basic indicators of interest. If she is laughing at somebody's jokes - it's an IOI. Does that mean your girlfriend is a whore who flirts with other guys? Of course not.

Can you be more specific with the "IOI's" you're talking about? It could be the fact that you're just a little paranoid, that's all.

Thanks in advance,

Zentrode.

I hate to disagree" Wolf" but DO NOT follow this advice. Any PUA knows that kind of behaviour will only make her like the other guy even more. Your best chance in these kinda situations is to act like it doesn't bother you AT ALL and try and find a cute girl to "game" while she's "flirting". She will quickly lose interest in whatever guy she's talking to as soon as she senses a threat ! Trust me on this - do not say a word about it! You are a PUA with a strong frame and your not worried one bit about some AFC your girl talks too.
Whatever you do don't let her know it bothers you even if it does !!

Although I agree that it can show that you are insecure, but if my GF was flirting with another guy in front of me? Sorry, but it's a bit disrespectful and I'm not going to let it slide. I'm not talking about innocent human behavior flirts, but full on flirting.

It's not going to make her "like" the guy anymore. I wouldn't say anything along the lines of don't talk to the guy or anything like that.

However, My GF and I both agree that flirting with other people is not to be done while in a relationship.

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Walk up to her, say you need to talk. Leave the room, tell her that flirting with other guys is not ok and is disrespectful to the relationship and you. Then tell her that she was in fact flirting with him. She will try to convince you otherwise but keep a strong frame.

All this does is show your an insecure baby with a control problem. How many times have you seen a healthy relationship with one of those kind of boyfriends. Not often...

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our best chance in these kinda situations is to act like it doesn't bother you AT ALL and try and find a cute girl to "game" while she's "flirting". She will quickly lose interest in whatever guy she's talking to as soon as she senses a threat ! Trust me on this - do not say a word about it! You are a PUA with a strong frame and your not worried one bit about some AFC your girl talks too.

Yea, okay. This is just another manifestation of the advice above it. Re-read what I said about that person's advice and apply it here also.

Hi Hobbit
no disr,just curious what was wrong with the second part where guy pretends to not notice--why would you not recommend doing this

But see that's something you have both already established. If the OP has NEVER discussed this with his GF...then I would NOT bring it up in the moment so to speak.

Some girls are just serial flirts, and others don't know their boundaries(which it sounds like is the case of the OP), even then...as others have said, IOI's are nothing more than showing interest(sometimes it can be sexual, other times nothing more than being polite).

When you have a gf you have to treat IOI's like a burn....theres three degrees of IOI's

first degree - Like a first degree burn they can be irritating but their not in any way harmful to your relationship and they can be left alone....there is no threat at all. examples - laughing at jokes, smiliing, casual conversation, slight touching or tap on shoulder ect ect....often women use this as a shit test and actually have no intention of hooking up with the guy they just want to see if they can get a rise out of you?

second degree - Second degree IOI's are somthing you should keep an eye on! they are usually a sign that she has a thing for the guy she is talking to (finds him atractive and would like to see If he is into her?) these are things that you are justified in being bothered about! touching or rubbing, inappropriate conversations (telling him hes good looking), basicaly anything that would be justifiably inappropriate....its just common sens.

Third degree - This is the worst of the worst...its cheating and is a sign that you need to drop her fast! examples - sitting on lap, grinding or dancing with the guy, kissing.

This isint by any mean a perfect system but its an easy way to break it down for you...anything first degree dont say shit! you have no right to....anything second degree you are aloud to say somthing, and anything third degree you should drop her ass and move on....simple enouph?

Hi Hobbit
no disr,just curious what was wrong with the second part where guy pretends to not notice--why would you not recommend doing this[/quote]

Yeah, im curious where my advice was flawed too?? I didn't mean try and K-close another girl I just meant elicit a few ioi's from another cutie... Where's the harm in that??

Yeah, im curious where my advice was flawed too?? I didn't mean try and K-close another girl I just meant elicit a few ioi's from another cutie... Where's the harm in that??[/quote]
IMHO it shows the wrong message, especially if she reads too far into it(which she is bound to do).
The message being that you find fault with what she is doing, and instead of talking to her about it, you are "competing" with her.

dunno bout that--these honest/heart to hert talks with gfs about things like flirting with other guys seem to have a ring of AFC or DR Phil about them--i think it would make her up her antics once she knows shes making him jealous and it would drive him nuts

By making her jealous hes reversing that old female maxim --theres plenty more fish in the sea/more than one grain of sand on the beach---hes telling her he has other options if she wants to play games

Im' not sure that pulling her aside and explainng to her what she's done wrong is the right move.

I mean she KNOWS she's doing wrong. So why explain it to her like she's a child?

I'm leaning towards walking out of the place and leaving her there.

THen not answering the phone call or text till a few days later.

I'd be onto someone else...

If she knows it makes you jealous and does it anyways, why would I be with that person? So disrespectful.

And for the above poster, maybe you haven't set boundaries and she think's it's not a big deal.

Id be inclined to agree--think when it comes to women one of the main things has to be--to thine own self be true---if you start making excuses for her and lying on her behalf too yourself your f*Cked.

IF you clearly see that shes into another bloke and would love to get off with him if you werent around---walk--dont lie to yourself saying shes only doing it to make you jealous

She knows what shes doing---dont make excuses--''but we havent set boundaries/discussed this type of thing'' she knows you wouldnt like it.

or when a girl clearly isnt interested in you--dont lie to yourself that shes only playing hard to get--if she wanted to be with you,she would be

A lot has been said already on this topic. My 2 cents are, there is a lot that happens between a girl giving IOIs to her starting a sexual relationship with someone. Why should I get affected because my girl is enjoying talking to some guy ! I'd join in the conversation and chat him up.

My girl is human and IOIs are natural hard wired. Yes there are guys who are more attractive than I am, yes there are guys who are more interesting than I am but only because they are talking to my girl and she is intrigued doesn't mean that they would have a chance of sleeping with her. I know that MPUAs like Mehow are proud of their tech. of kissing a girl when she is holding her bf's hand but if that would have been my hand that she is holding than it would be my hand and the guy's face lol !!

I wouldn't let guys kino with my girl but wouldn't mind joining in a conv. with them and chatting up the guy if he is interesting