Yes, one-itis on the side is more or less what im dealing with and truthfully i do not know how to cope with it.

She came into my life oddly enough nearly a year ago (June 6th being the day i first was introduced to/came into my life). She, through a friends party pictures (yes pictures from a party), found me really good looking and wanted to get to know me etc etc. ending up talking and seemed as if we were going to end up "dating" (by what was said to eachother). Turned out not to be the case and i ended up never meeting her then and not until recently since i left for italy in the summer for about a month and a half.

To make a long story short, i came back thought we had what we had since we facebooked msged eachother nearly everyday, thought we would meet and then the night we planned to go out she more or less laid down the fact that she was seeing someone else she met at school. We more or less became friends (I know serious afc move and that was the downfall for me for about 9 months following)

Now i always had the thing with her from the summer and the feelings were still there for me, but i was doing my thing on the side; meeting new people, girls etc. so it didnt really phase me untill 2 weeks ago when we first met :S.

We hung out and what not and the next day she was texting me saying she wanted to "pull moves on me" and "try kissing me" the next time we seen eachother.

TOTAL MIND FUCK! Untill that point i thought we were just friends and now this happened. I was in a serious state of confusion since i always had a thing for her and tried meeting her and tried to make her like me like back in the summer when she couldnt stop talking to me.

So that weekend we went oddly enough to a club.

* Note - Never bring a girl you like to a club because it is the worst possible thing you could do unless your in some type of a relationship! *

We hooked up and i knew that bringing her was bad so i talked to other girls and what not so that i could get her jelous and make her stay with me and not drift of with other guys because she got bored; more or less be alpha male whenever i could be.

The all of a sudden the next day she texts me saying she is still confused with the original guy she was with a while back and doesnt know who to pick; me or him.

So i put on the cold shoulder last thursday and didnt talk with her untill today and well she wants to chill this weekend sometime (And she asked me) but what i was more or less wondering is how should i go forth with this? I want to be with her yet i do not want to appear needy or come on to strong and even so i dont know the full situation since she never really told me who she has "picked" yet.

Ive told her im not willing to wait and ride this roller coaster no more. But she is takeing her sweet ass time and i just dont know what to do about it. I really want to be with her, a lot, but i dont wanna pull some AFC movements or appear like i said needy even though i like her so much. Any advice would help..

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