I thought I read a while ago that when your girlfriend dumps her problems on you and wants your opinion you remain impartial and change the subject to something more exciting. Correct me if I'm wrong or commend me.

You typically should remain impartial. However I was just in that situation and the girl started dumping her problems on me. I chose to give her my opinions (not necessarily my honest opinions) and just chose responses that demonstrated that I was a great guy. It worked out well and I ended up kiss closing her right afterward.

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Yeah well.... you gotta be careful. Take it from someone who's had a lot of experience doing this.

If you are any good at it, eventually you will hit her wall, and she'll hate you for it, because she can't face that issue, and will project that anger and confusion onto you, for directly addressing it.

If you aren't, you'll go in an endless circle of advice, and she'll even hold you responsible for any advice that went bad.

Either way, it ends badly.

You don't have to ignore her problems, but you can at least encourage her to think for herself. If you have to, give her multiple options, and the kind of advice that requires her to go away and think about it and try things to solve it herself.

Remain impartial, put your 2 cents in and leave it that. Women enjoy the presence of a strong man they can look to for advice, but you do not want to turn into her 'girlfriend' either.

If you handle the situation correctly, she will know what topics she can approach you with, and which ones to leave for her girlfriends.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

Guys, it's a crazy concept, but check it out... girls don't think like we do. Women don't want answers or advice. They just want to talk about the problem. They're emotionally minded instead of logically minded like men. Men see problems and want to solve them. Women are perfectly capably of coming to the same solutions that we do. They don't want us stating the obvious. They just want to know that the way they are feeling about the problem is okay.

So DON'T give your 2 cents. Don't solve the problem. Don't be the strong man. Just commiserate. Agree that so-and-so is a douche. Don't tell her what you would do in the situation.

There's a Chris Rock stand-up, where he's saying - all you have to do is listen, and all girls have some other girl out to get them, so remember to throw in a "Yeah, I told ya that bitch be crazy" every now and then. Haha...