I recently split up with my girlfriend after about 8 months, she'd cheated on me earlier in our relationship and had suspicions she was again so i told her that i couldn't trust her and therefore i didn't want to be with her any more. She said she understood and then started to talk as if we were best friends, i told her i was busy and ended the call. She's still texting me asking if we can talk but i don't want to at all. I finished the relastionship because i don't trust her as a girlfriend or as a friend. In a relationship trust is fundamental not only for me but i assume for everyone. I don't know how to get the point across to her. She fucked me over and treated me like shit throughout our time together and it's just frustrating that she thinks things are some how going to work out and this is just a little blip in our relationship. I can't properly move on until she lets me, every ignored text or phone call just seems to take things back to square one. Any advice? greatly appreciated guys

Holy crap dude - I recognised your user name and searched - this is the girl who cheated on you multiple times and kept stringing you along, and even turned your "friends" against you. By george she's got some gumption. Not only does she think she's got enough "power" to keep stringing you along after all this, but actually deep down likes you enough to want to keep trying it on with you. That's really fucked up. She's a real head case.

Just wondering though - what's the problem? There are lots of things you can say to a girl that will ensure she'll never speak to you again, it's not hard You could start with telling her exactly what you think of her and why she sits so low on your scale of respect she doesn't even rate as an aquaintance anymore...

Maaate, tell me about it. It's not causing me any major stress at all, just annoying that she doesn't get the point. She's trying it all, first of all she's attempting to send hidden messages by e-mailing me songs with title's such as 'It's not over' and choosing to send me love songs about getting over arguments. The thing she doesn't seem to realise is that we haven't had a petty argument or fallen out, i broke it off with her because she fucking cheated on me. So all this bullshit like sending me songs and in particular trying to anchor by sending me songs we used to listen to in my car means absolutley nothing to me. Il give her one thing, she has good game, but a cheat's a cheat and a liar...etc. The problem is I can't say "I'm pretty sure you were cheating on me again and i don't trust you" because i have no proof, although it was pretty blatant as i'm sure you'll agree. She'll just use that lack of proof to go all defensive and try and flip the situation around. That's why on the phone i had to say "I don't trust you and I should have finished things when you got with that guy after 2 months" to which she replied "I understand i just wish we could have realised this earlier". In all honesty i felt like saying "You have no fucking right to take that stance" but i didn't i just said "Yeah, well...we weren't going anywhere, things were never the same, i'm going". She tried to tell me about what she was up to and stuff but i just told her no i'm busy and hung up. She totally contradicted herself by saying that she understood on the phone and then ringing me at 03:50am (missed call) on sunday morning, obviously drunk and been out thinking fuck knows what. Then i get this text last night saying 'Are you busy?x', which i've ignored. Aaaarrrgg! Frustrating not heart breaking, carry on ignoring?

Use this script, and feel free to add or subtract but not too much that it does away with the spirit of this script, or it will loose effectiveness.

"Sorry Virginia, to be perfectly honest I am not the type of guy who likes to keep a straight face for too long. The truth is I have lost respect for you completely, and am not in the least bit interested in your calls, your texts or being anywhere near you. I would appreciate it if you delete my number from your phone (as I have done yours) and not waste my time further. Thanks."

Yeah, like that that's all she deserves really... but I always want to let people know they've made a mistake - just to make absolutely sure they don't get the idea that I would be arbitrarily cutting them out. Best case they learn from it and try to improve for later in life, worst case they feel shit for being insulted.

Maybe something that lets her know that you percieve her as the kind of person who doesn't know how to treat people with respect and therefore will have a hard time keeping a steady boyfriend. The truth hurts way more than petty insults, and sometimes a person needs a kick in the pants to change their act.

But that's just me. I can't cut a person off as if they never existed, I have to leave knowing I did what I could to make a bit of a difference.

Yeah good advice from both you guys. Now she's just being outright nasty, saying some horrible things. There's just no easy way out of this one, perseverence is the key i think. This girl's a psycho. Anyway managed to f close last night and was actually approached by her which is always good.

Why don't you just block her number. Its as simple as that.

Doing that will probably trigger her to seek out other means to contact you (calling from other numbers, changing screen names etc.) but just keep on blocking/ignoring them.

It seems from your posts her nasty text messaging is really getting to you and preventing you from moving on so do something about it.

So to recap...

1. Delete her number from your phone
2. Block her number
3. Don't message or respond back to her
4. Most important start seeing other women

I think she was using you to define herself. Having you on a string while fooling with other guys made her feel like she was "the man", it was a good set up for her, and more importantly - doing this in front of other people (your old female friends) and having them all see it first hand, probably made those beta females feel like "wow, she sure is alpha, we have to hang around her and suck up, hopefully some of that will rub off onto us" and she would have loved it.

By not being with her, the rugs pulled out from under her, and she's probably gonna start realising soon that it's her fault she set herself up like this.

And if those "friends" ever found out that YOU dumped HER... woah... no wonder she's getting nasty... she's tried being nice, now she's getting desperate.

Fuck me. This is outrageous. So without thinking i picked up the phone last night to a withheld number not thinking it could be her. She started reading a letter she'd prepared for me. ''i never got a chance to say how much you mean to me', ''i don't want to lose you, you mean so much to me'', ''I'm sick of pretending i don't care anymore'' etc... I just told her to leave me alone and told her that i went out last night and slept with a girl who'd approached me. I went on to say only one more thing which was you should learn from your actions and change your ways or all your relationships will end up like this. Telling her that i'd slept with another girl just had the adverse affect. This is brilliant, instead of hanging up, crying or a whole host of other possible reactions, she... asked me how pretty she was, seriously..wtf! I just ended the call. Please, please, please heed this warning, if you ever come accross a girl that wants what she can't have do not get into a relationship with them. There's no way around it. From this experience i've learned that you can have genuinely good game but if she knows she's got you, her mind will stray elsewhere.

Definitely Get rid of this crazy bimbo, and I trust that by NOW you have already begun to do so. Please move on it kills me to read this! The longer you let her string you on, the lower you allow your value to become. But you are a PUA and not a frustrated chump! You want to have high value, right? Ditch her, unless you want to be in a relationship that obviously is not making you happy and is deteriorating your mental health. Woman can drive us crazy! And other woman that see this going on will see you as a low value guy.

God did not stop making pussy with her. Tell a girl that and she will be sure to never call you again. I've been in a similar situation that's why it kills me to see someone else go through this.

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