So i met this girl and got into a relationship with her. Turns out a month before she was seeing her boyfriend of 2-3 years off and on and even told me he was an asshole and treated her like shit. The thing is she still talks to him and he even brings her pies and cakes he makes because he is a chef. I have told her how I dont like her talking to her ex and how uncomfortable it makes and we couldnt be together if she kept it up. Because of my jealousy we decided we would take a break and though we are not going out. since saturday, we have the same relationship though she tells me less how much she has a crush on me and is still hanging our with her ex. Should I get back with her or keep the break going. Our fight started because she was planning on going to a wedding with her ex in the summer which I got mad to.

I know jealousy sucks, and we all have to experience it. But here's the deal: Do you think your game is solid. If you do, then don't worry about the ex, if your game with her is in fact solid she will come back to you, not him. I know he may have a few years rapport advantage on you, but she left him, and she's trying to get with you. The wedding thing is a little effy though, i would need more details to figure that one out. If its her friend that's getting married ask if you can tag along. If she doesnt know the ppl, find out why she wants to go. OR... you could be a little more mischievous and plan something more exciting for the day she would be at the wedding, like a concert. Another thing to consider, could you be with her if the relationship wasnt magnanimous? You would have her and you would be free to find other girls that are looking for the same things you are. Wouldn't being her f-buddy be better than not having her in your life at all? If you do decide to be with her in a non-magnanimous way then you should def have other girls, it will help alleviate the feeling of jealousy you get from putting all your eggs in one basket. Once you have a few g/fs it doesnt matter as much that one of them is friends with their ex, b/c if it doesnt work out you have other girls to put your attention on.

jealousy is normal and every one I mean every one get it! I am not a jealous guy what so ever! but I find my with my new gf I tend to get super jealous and of all the girls I have been with she is the most trust worthy lol funny how that works.

As for "should you still be with her?" No. If she knows it bothers you and she cant drop him him then that shows a lack of respect on her part. She either still has feeling for her or she has little respect for your feelings bro...You want a gf who listens to you and rather then barking back and calling you jealous she asks why it bothers you and trys to find a solution....thats a healthy relationship. My gf knows I hate it when she talks to her ex's and so she doesnt and it doesnt bother her because she has no feeling for them any more...I am the same way I just droped all my "flings" once I got with her.

This is the way I see it...If she knows it bothers you and she still does it then she is picking him over you plain and simple.