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Someone once told me that having a gf is like having sex, but without all the trouble of finding someone to have sex with! I don't take this at face value, but I know that discrepancies between how much sex you want vs. how much you actually get can lead to big problems in relationships. I guess it basically comes down to the fact that I would like to have sex more often than she does. I have only been dating my gf for 5 months now and she told me the other day that she only really gets in the mood for sex like once a week. Isn't that low for a new relationship? (im 22 and she's my first gf). I can't help it but I actually get angry when I get horny and want to have sex, but then shes too tired or is not in the mood for it. I try to warm her up and everything for sex, but I don't know what i am doing wrong or if I am doing anything wrong at all. Am I pressing her too hard to have sex or am I just not revving her engine enough to just throw down and get nasty Any help would be great!

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Look,,, there are a number of ways to really get a girl in the mood. So improve what you can. But keep one thing in mind, for some ladies,,, it's a once a week thing.

If that's the case, I'd walk. Fuck that. That's like married with children level. Once a week, WTF!

Alright man when it comes to women remeber the word emotional!!!! tattoo this on you hand "emotional" haha First of all never fight with your girl about sex! never ask for it, never hint about it...instead hit her on an emotional level and lead her!

Women need to feel a powerful emotional surge before they are hot and heavey....it might take you the whole day to prep her but that just how it is. Take her hand and tell her how beautiful she looks and then grab her head and kiss her then walk away....make her dinner, give her a massage...be romanic!!!! trust me man you can have sex any time you want you are just sending the wrong vibe.

Dude I fucked my last GF 2-4 times a day. If youre skilled she'll want it...
(By the way treat every minute youre not having sex as foreplay, Don't give it an on/off switch... make it a 24 hour dial that only adjusts intensity from low to high)

So true - remember this; arousal for a woman starts at 7am, or whenever it is she opens her eyes and begins the day. By the time you two get to bed in the night, if she's not ready to tear your clothes off, it's not happening. Don't start trying to arouse her after you get into bed. All this does is make you look AFC and predictable.

My last girlfriend said she really got turned on my be doing my cabeling. I have a sound system and computer I was constantly trying to set up, and it was summer and crawling around made me hot so I always did it with my shirt off. I never once thought being such a nerd would turn her on. The fact of the matter is, she saw me being productive and passionate about something I liked. This is a turn on. Women like to see men hard at work, and they like to see them being passionate about something they are working on.

LB57 is also right about being good at it - women have a much higher capacity to enjoy sex than we doe. They can have multiple orgasms, and they have multiple erogenous zones. We just have one of each. There is a book called "How to be the best lover ever" floating around. The title might sound cheap, but this is a book that has caused many girls to crave sex every day. And by that I mean their boyfriends read it and studied it.

Dude I'm not bagging the Phone Sex material you mentioned, but are you serious? You wouldn't read any books but you'd listen to CDs - why? Paper is outdated compared to plastic?? Do you at least have any first hand accounts of how that material has helped you or someone else?

Anyway... "How to be the best lover ever" can be found online as a PDF and was written in 2008. I am only just getting into it myself but my brother is fully into it, and the stories he's told me about his girlfriend are amazing. She's gone from a shy wall flower to pulling him into bed every night they're together whether he's ready or not, and she has multiple orgasms every night. She's even gone as far as saying "I have a bf and he's better at sex than you'll ever be" whenever some other guy tries to hit on her - this is not when he's around, this is what his friends have told him they heard whenever she's out without him and someone tries to hit on her.

As for my opinion - I'm only part way through it, and so far it rings true to everything I've experienced, and all the things I hear the popular PUA's on David D's "Man Transformation" say, being confident at the same time as being loving, etc.