Beware this is a long rant. But maybe some of you are in the same situation!

How "AFC" is it okay to be in a relationship?

When you feel for someone you want to spend more and more time with them. I know it is bad for a relationship to see the other person daily and I feel like it is happening more often!

Yes I want to see my girl, but when she asks me "Am I gonna see you tomorrow?" "Are we hanging out tomorrow?" "Do you want to hang out?" Its hard to turn her down. I read the thread on how to get some of "my own" time. But a lot of the time I feel like if I didn't chill with her, I probably won't be doing anything anyways! I've allowed myself to get so comfortable with being with her and not having to game other girls that I'm losing my ability to keep her attracted in a way. I feel like I myself have become a less interesting person even though she always says to me that "I always have the best times when im with you!""We have the best memories together!"

In a way she is correct. We have done MANY fun and exciting things together, but we can't go on crazy adventures all the time and I feel like more and more we just sit around just watching TV or having sex.

This Saturday I cannot see her since I have a wedding to attend and I can't bring a date. She told me that she is going to dinner with this kid that she used to get drugs from sometimes and went to High School with us to "catch up" and since he owes her money.

I do sometimes hang out with other girls but have not told her about it since I don't know if I should make her jealous like that? Because she will in turn go hang out with more guys? And know that I know she is going to see him on Saturday I don't know how to feel about that..

What are some things to do to spice up a relationship. We do exciting things, so should I just not see her as often and just do these exciting things only and see her less often. I feel like the spark is dying on my end!

You can see your own problem but are not facing it - yes you are seeing her too much, yes you are letting things get humdrum, and yes, attraction will be lost and you will want to cheat on each other.

My opinion is -If you aren't doing anything else, then you need to. You want to have a fulfilling life, and be as interesting and attractive person as possible, so you need to find other things to do. Me, I havent' got enough time. I do hip-hop dancing, jujitsu, game development - all outside of work, and around social occasions. Plus having the obligation to help finish making the video game means cancelling on some social things, leaving the more important ones, and enjoying them more.

Sex works like that too - you can abstain, and then get crazy with it. Look forward to trying it in some naughty place in public, like somewhere in the dunes on a quiet beach or in the middle of the forest. Make a day of it -have a picnic, go out to dinner in the night. Then dont' see each other till the next weekend.
But as the man in the relationship, you have to be in control of that - you have to say you're too busy but set up a date when you two can get together. Having to make time for other interesting things is a much better reason to not have sex, than outright saying that "Hey we should have sex less, then it will be more fun."

And part of having things to do is having other friends to see, and if she knows she isn't the only person in your life she wont' get complacent and disrespectful. And you can't get jealous about her seeing other guy friends - that's a bit hipocritical...

WTF!?!

Thanks conker, you have some wise words.. and my relationship with her has changed a LOT since i wrote that post. Everything is going very well. I realized that i must focus more on bettering myself more than just worrying about the relationship in a day to day basis. Because, the more I do for myself, the more it DHV's me and the more that she (and any other girl for that matter) see's in me. If I am not content with myself, why should anyone else be? Win.

Edit: also she never ended up seeing that other guy and I truly believe that she wants to be with no one else but me. Because I am $$$$$

Yeah looks like you realised the basic formula - if you are attractive, she's attracted to you, hehehe.

Just dont completely turn back into an AFC, I did that with my past girlfriend and she lost interest and dumped me. Its a confusing situation your in I know, but just dont go back into AFC.