just curious what i can be doing to be getting more sex in a LTR. also she is kinda on the fence about doing anal, what can i do to make her feel more comfortable about it and get her to do it?

not only go out with with your LTR but socialise with her friends. gane trust with her friends and possibly raise your social proof, so your LTR will gain my trust in you and may consider it. Also try more sex positions other than anal, then soon enough youll get to it.

For more sex you will need to get into her brain and find out what drives her sexually. Even though they won't admit it, women periodically will "take care of business" on their own. Since they are not driven by pornography they are re-running favorite fantasies through their dirty little heads. And yeah,, it's typically the same stuff us guys are thinking or worse. No shit.

ANyways,, it's a locked door and you got to find a way for her to unlock and invite you in. Every woman has her own couple "things" that put her over the top. So as you can imagine, it's takes a lot of trust and wine to be invited into that room. The best timing is during sex. Ask her to tell you a dirty story. That will clue you in.

That's just one angle. There are other things. Being a good lover. Keeping her wanting. Seduction. Knowing her spots etc...

For anal sex,,, as far as I know,,, and it is unscientific,,, I think the majority of woman have gone for it at least one time. Maybe not by any large measure, but I would say a solid 55%. My guess. Hey man,, it's still taboo. So you got to turn a bad thing into a good thing for her. Doing bad things can be a real turn on for ladies. Then you've got to have some real trust. And wine......

ANyways,,, good luck

oohh anal on the fence, that doesn't sound too comfortable. No wonder she's having doubts!