Hey,
Firstly, there are three characteristics of every relationship:
1. you will have to put some effort in
2. respect your partner
3. honesty

But that's not the trick. If you want to build a solid relationship there are three steps that you will have to follow.
1. Find out what they want. Ask your girlfriend / date what she would like out of a relationship (have a pad and pen ready) first she will say she doesnt know, but ask her about what her ideal man would do for her, or what's really important to her.
2. Go and get it. This may be a new skill set you may have to acquire or it might be flowers once a week, so find out where you can get them from.
3. Give it to her. I first heard about this process when a gentleman told me his story of his relationship with his wife. He did this on his first date, and he had to take notes on a napkin to remember all the things she wanted, but one in particular stuck in my mind: She asked him to give her a little note every day. She didnt say that it had to be positive so sometimes he told her how he was feeling, but the point is that even after 15 years of marriage he still leaves a little note for her every day to wake up to or find.

Do this for a woman and you will be rewarded several times over.

the basic idea seems fine but imo, asking them what they want in a man is like SPAM your value. i only use natural game and value is the most important aspect of my personality. by asking her directly what her ideal qualities are, it just seems like the man is trying to qualify himself. and i have never heard of an alpha male who wants to qualify to a woman's standards. women have to qualify to your standards

Hmmmm!?! WTF!?!

That sounds like a cool game for a passive guy who wants to "lay down" for a lady. But I think the trick is to already know what a woman wants and give it to her in measured doses.

Look,,, I just disagree with you. I think what you propose leads to servitude. I mean, ask away, but you have to be your own man. You have to always keep them wanting a little bit.

Maybe for guys,,, if you really don't know, ask women that you don't want to be involved with, what women want. They will tell you good information.

That's my take. But hey,,,, to each his own.

Cheers Brotha!