So i've been with my girl for a year now and sometimes i think she flirts with some of my friends. Now, i'm not a very trustworthy person to begin with but i called her out of one of these times the other day and she thinks i'm being crazy and over protective but i know what i saw was flirting and i can't put up with that shit.. any suggestions?

Well what do you classify as flirting? be more specific?

If she is flirting then of course you should say somthing and let her know that behavior is not ok....but to be honest I think alot of guys mistake flirting for just being nice.

If she did it in front of you then chances are she was not trying to flirt but some girls will flirt even in front of thier bf's and that is deff not ok!

For the sake of this post I'm going to assume you meant to say that you're not a very trusting person, not that you aren't trustworthy, since the latter would open up an entire other can of worms the contents of which are beyond the purview of this particular message board.

The short answer to your question is yes, your behavior is indicative of a deep-seated insecurity with yourself. One thing you need to realize is that if your girlfriend wants to flirt with every Tom, Dick and Harry in town, she is going to do it whether you approve of her behavior or not--no amount of bitching is going to change her. In fact, it may do exactly the opposite. I can't tell you how many times I've laid next to a girl basking in the afterglow of multiple orgasms who told me, verbatim, "Hell, if he thinks I'm cheating on him I might as well do it!"

And what the hell do you care if she flirts anyway? Flirting is like a drug to women--they crave it. They fiend for it. As long as she is coming home to you every night, exactly what difference does it make if she vibes with some other guy for a while? Do you really think she is going to make a deeper connection with some guy she meets randomly than she has with her boyfriend of a year? If so, you have bigger problems than what you've mentioned in your post.

The attitudes and frames I've presented above are examples of how a sexually secure, enlightened man views the world. You can choose to adopt them and save untold amounts of energy and time you would otherwise waste worrying about something as insignificant as some harmless flirting on behalf of your girlfriend, or you can decide her behavior is unacceptable and dump her.

The one thing you can't do is change her.

Your boy,
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If you honestly can not trust your gf then you should not be with her....on the other hand if you can then you should. If it is a new relationship and your not sure if you can trust her 100% yet then that is normal it takes time....but after a year you should know!

So can you trust her? If you dont know then you have a decision to make....