hey guys and some girls i plan to ask this girl about starting a relationship, after a week and a half of jus hooking up, i doubt she will reject me.......

So this is going to by my first relationship that i actually want to do good in, i think that we might actually have a good relationship.


The thing is this is my 2rd elationship that i will be getting into, the other one turned out terrible and i dont want to screw this one up cuz i really like her ....

so any advice on how to have a good and fun relationship?
and are there any good ebooks on stuff like this???

What you're asking is a difficult topic to address comprehensively. "Having good relationships" is, perhaps, the fundamental problem at the heart of a lot of human behaviour.

Can you share any additional information? How old are you? Do you intend for this to be an exclusive relationship or would you like for you and her to be able to see other people?

What would you like to achieve in this relationship? This is an important question, especially in a community like this, which does not unnecessarily glamorize monogamy. (Some of us still believe in monogamy, but I'd like to believe that I have enough perspective to recognize its limitations too.) Generally speaking, relationships should serve a purpose. People date regularly to get to know one another better; they date exclusively to build trust; they get engaged to give their families time to adjust to the idea of them being married; and they get married to make a statement of lasting commitment. If you're getting into a relationship just because "that's what people do," then perhaps you should rethink it

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Some vices miss what is right because they are deficient, others because they are excessive, in feelings or in actions, while virtue finds and chooses the mean.
Aristotle, Ethica Nichomachea

well we are 17 lol so maybe what im looking for is an exclusive relationship so.... im graduating this yr from highschool and she is graduating nxt yr, so is that enough for you to go on or you need more info?

and i guess what my question is.... how to keep the attraction from going down?

Briefly, here are two things that you can do to keep the attraction hot in a long-term, monogamous relationship.

1) Don't change who you are. If she was attracted to you because you're flirtatious and flamboyant, don't stop. Flirt with her, flirt with other women, continue to be the attractive person you were when she met you. Just don't carry it any further than that.

2) Be a man. I mentioned in another thread how the behaviours that mark you as an Alpha Male evolve as the relationship does. Before she really gets to know you, you can embellish and exaggerate a little bit about how much of a leader, how much of a protector you are. As she gets to know you, you actually have to fill those shoes if you want to keep her. Do it.

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Some vices miss what is right because they are deficient, others because they are excessive, in feelings or in actions, while virtue finds and chooses the mean.
Aristotle, Ethica Nichomachea

lol alrite heres the funny part lol we both like to take control.... now thats a good thing and a bad thing....... since somehow she does end up having it her way, and later on so do i..... so.... any advice on how to maintain alpha male with a girl who also likes to take control?

Here's my take on being alpha. Others may disagree with this, but these are the definitions with which I work.

Being alphas is NOT about being in control of the relationship or about being in control of her. Lasting relationships are pairings of equals.

Being alpha is about being a master of yourself and of your circumstances. Do you belong to any organizations that do volunteer work? Initiate and lead the next service project. Too serious and not fun enough? Plan and host a senior farewell barbecue this summer. (For bonus points, charge admission of two cans of food, which you'll donate to the local food shelf.)

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Some vices miss what is right because they are deficient, others because they are excessive, in feelings or in actions, while virtue finds and chooses the mean.
Aristotle, Ethica Nichomachea

Thats some nice suggestions there Zeglass, I really like them ideas..

Real Alphas dont need to be in control or say they are Alpha, they are so laid back they know they're Alpha..

going to college next year?
You better really like this girl. I wasted about 7 months of my first year of college dating this girl who was a year younger also back at my high school. Don't let her keep you from having fun dude. Take it from me I just went through it and now Ill always regret turning down so many girls. Enjoy college bro is all I'm saying; these 4-5 yrs will be some of the best times of your life. If this is your second relationship then chances are you really don't know exactly what you're looking for yet in a girl so I'd say stay single, improve your game and see what's out there. But otherwise more power to ya and best of luck in the relationship.