Here's the deal.
I am in a stable relationship (6 months). I'm 18 and my girl is a year younger.
My gf gets a lot of attention from the guys, normally I'm quite cool with it because I completely trust her. But there is this one guy (21), he is extremely alpha, and he keeps sending her text messeges that are going slightly over the edge for my part, this has been going on for about 3 months now. She does reply to him, but not as edgy as his messeges, she says that she is just being nice.
I really don't trust that guy, he truly makes my blood boil. I see him about once a week, and he is always friendly with me and keeps asking me whats up and shit.

What is the best way to deal with it? I want to deal with the situation, but I don't really know how I should tell my girl that I'm not cool with it.

imo she replies to keep him on the back burner
and to make you jealous

there is really no way to solve it without her getting mad at you for be jealous or controlling

the only way deal with it is to not react to it
or better yet dump her
and get a better gf

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Sounds like a Pedifile to me. Hes 21 shes 17?? Cant he hang out
with people closer to his age? Im guessing your gf is a junior too.
Thats a little odd a 21 year old is texting a junior...

That's a ridiculous thing to say, in all honesty.

Flypaper's on the button. Don't be the jealous chump and go stomping about telling her she can't talk to the guy, or snarling at him from across a corridor...let it slide, play it cool. Focus on the things that brought you together in the first place - maybe you've forgotten? Maybe she's forgotten? So go remind her instead of worrying about someone else.

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pedofile? as usual the poor grammar is a clear representation of the mind set
no 17 is not too young for 21

just imagine hes a senior and she is a freshman
4 year limit at the HS level

duh

In my opinion, if she continues to text him knowing that he has intentions other than friendship, that is disrespect you on her part. I realize this could be seen as being overprotective or overbearing, but really dude; Do you want to put up with another guy constantly trying to win her over, down-talking you to her, influencing her, etc.? If that keeps up, then any conflict you have in the relationship will be points lost for you, and guess who she will run to?

And like someone in another thread mentioned, he wouldn't keep trying if she wasn't leading him on in some way, shape, or form.

EDIT: By the way, this applies to all situations like this:

How did he get her number?

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Maybe he got her number because he was an interesting person that could become a friend?

And yes, why wouldn't you want to put up with men trying to win your woman over? They are TRYING to WIN for a reason, because you have her. Tons and tons and tons of men will do this constantly. And to react to that in a jealous or overbearing manner will (like FlyPaper said) make you look bad. Would you rather have men that she secretly talks to conversing with her, or men she has obviously put in the friend zone (even though they are interested) talking to her?

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Hmm, you're right locke. However...

Am I the only one to think that it's abnormal for your girlfriend to give a random guy (s) her number? That just doesn't seem right... correct me if I'm wrong.

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You're losing to him.

From a PUA mindset, if the BF or orbiter gets jealous, I consider that a huge advantage to my game.

Your GF will pick up on your jealousy. Consider it a shit test in and of itself. My question is, are you going to pass?
No you're not alone. Plenty of AFC's think it's abnormal for their cute girlfriends to give out their number to interesting guys.

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I sort of have a relationship with a chick similar to the guy you described. Two things you should know, she will be talking with him about all the problems in your relationship, and he will taking every little thing and making stuff 10x worse for you. So you are right, having dudes like that talking to your G/F is bad..

Don't know what i can tell you dude. Try hitting it on with some chicks to make your g/f jealous. When she complains, take the opportunity to discuss your feels towards this dude. If that don't work, at least you will have some back up options when the shit hits the fan., hmm.

That's a sure fire way to give her all the reason she needs to leave him if she's considering that option.

The only thing you said that I agree with is openly and maturely discussing feelings with the girl about the dude.

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A very simple, and common, situation.

Play back to her with her own game. Meet some fit girls and exchange flirty messages with them. Just develop a whole load of new relationships with girls who are after you.

Let's see if she will (also) get jealous. After all, reciprocity is key in relationships !

After you've got a whole stable of girls after you you'll be able to judge her value. If she doesn't get a lot warmer and more open then drop her. She's only worthy of your time if she'll fight for you. It is not your evolutionary role to fight for her.

Ensure that you're pressing her in an impressive way.

"Deal with her right and she'll stay tight, too much talk and watch her walk".

PhilZ

Why in the world is she texting him back !!!

Now ready for this : I just threw a hard slap at you.

I know I'm being rude but we are trying to give you an honest opinion.

You say you don't trust the guy, my friend you should not trust your girl here. She says she is being nice, hahahaaa..... don't you get it she is flirting. She is attracted to this guy.

Yeah, I know I'm being rude again.

A girl in a relationship when realizes that another guy is communicating strong interest in her, she would distant herself from the other guy unless she is interested in him.

Ok now here is the thing. Don't get upset, don't tell her anything about not texting the other guy because you have done that already and she knows you get upset with it. So Just play it cool and don't say a thing to her now. Be friendly with the other guy as if nothing has happened. Talk to other cutie girls and develop a greater social proof. Your girl should kno wthat you are desirable by other girls. Do not flirt with the other girls as this would give your girl a reason to act on her attraction for the 21 yr old guy. Yes she is attracted, sorry.

You could try sendin ranchy messages to your girl. Sometimes its this whole thing about messages that triggers something in women. His playing field is text message so play on his field.

Lastly, be don't be surprised if she comes back to you confessing of making out with this other guy. She is attracted to him, face it.

Exactly. It is -NOT- okay for a girl who is already taken to give random guys her phone number, if there is nothing like schoolwork, etc. that they may have to work on together. I don't care how many backhanded insults I receive. This is what I believe and I know it's right.

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