My girlfriend and i are recently both out of college, i am a little older than her. We both are working part time, and i make a little more money than her, but not much. How do i go about talking about money. we go out probably 2 or 3 times a week, other nights we stay in and she cooks, but i help and some nights i cook what i know how.

anyway i feel like when we go out she should occasionally pay. i'm not sure where the feminist movement is right now, but i would say I pay 95% of the time unless she is buying something pretty much just for herself.

should she be paying for some meals? i feel kind of cheap as the guy and i dont want to ask her to pay. so how do i broach this? or am i wrong and i am supposed to pay more than her?

thanks for the help

It's all about the money. I don't have much money and my girlfriend and I are students. I know i have a bit much money than she has, so when we go somewhere it's not a pain to spend twice more, but you see, sometimes i come and say "i don't have any money today and i will not have any until xxday" and it's ok, then she spends her money. I don't see anythingbad here. It doesn't make me worse man if i pay or if she pays, so you could do just that, let her sometimes spends some money for you too

tell her to go dutch or you cant go out

If you don't have the money, tell her that you have to stay in and cook because you don't have the dollars to go out. It's a matter of balance.

If you cook AND pay for the food when you go out, that isn't balanced; but she may be reciprocating in a way you just don't realize. Think about all the things she does for you. If it doesn't seem reasonable, then stop paying. Ask her to help out.

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Everybody seems to be giving good advice. Asking to go dutch, asking her to pay, observing the ways she does contribute, etc. are all good ideas. You shouldn't be afraid to communicate with her about this. She cooks for you, so it sounds like you guys don't have any issues with playing power games. Having a candid conversation about paying for the fun you have together could have surprising benefits, like coming up with new, creative ways to spend time together that both save money and add some more variety to your relationship.

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