Heres the situation:

No.1
I am in a relationship for 4 weeks with a girl. We are totally in love, but i think she is my one-itis.... So I totally gave up my game and did everything my way (but still kept in mind the basic pu stuff). So the result was of course: I gave my frame as the alpha male away because I was truying to have a balanced relationship. But now she is more in control of me as i wanted it.
What can I do to slowly get my frame back?

No.2:

I am extreeemly jealous, I cant see her hanging out with another guy... Next weekend she is going to a dance class with a good friend of her and this weekend she is going to a friends party (with a ton of drunken teenage boys, and when she is drinking she is getting toey...) I trust her but I have no Idea how to get my jealousy problems in control. As well I cant take it if i think a girl has had something with another guy before, if you look at some guys who are running around (luckily she was a virgin..) I know it is normal that girl have sex with other guys before but...

..I have no Idea how to get this fear and jealousy in control.

Any good advices for this 2 problems ??
Thanks a lot (and please no posts with content of dumping her )

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You don't need to dump her you need to work on yourself. It's your own insecurities that are causing you to feel this way. Those are what you need to pinpoint and fix. You need to work on your 'inner game' and your own confidence to have trust in her to do the right thing.

This game corrupts sometimes both ways. We learn girls are great to be with but we also break barriers in our minds about what girls really are capable of and do in their spare time.

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

You need to accept, i personally from hind sight would end it before it goes bitter anyway.. plenty more great girls...

Be single for a while and get used to it but meet lots of girls and accept tht girls like you.. and learn to accept life as it is... when you do youll be in more control and laugh at life but when you do finally laugh you can then control whats around you. In other words... you'll know that we all flirt but at the end of the day shes with you.... youll meet another girl in time when you learn all this.. .another thing to think is if she had met you earlier she would have been with you anyway... and that people have sex... end of! youve only be seeing each other 4 weeks... cant surely call it love you need to grow up a little i know it sounds harsh but you sound young? its a learning curve... were not built for the way life is.. but we can learn to adapt.


Biggest lesson learnt. thing is its not a regret if you learn from it its a lesson

good luck and learn to laugh at life and accept it. its not such a bad thing tht guys like your girl. its a compliment. shes with YOU!

sierra

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I like to hybrid techniques, inner game and methods with my own natural game.

@ Jsmooth: Can you recommend anything for learning inner game?

@Sierra: Its a great thing I will learn after this relationship. But I am not ready to break it up already... And yes you are right we are young, both 19

Is there something I could do to get our relationship on an equal level, with no dominatin and no submissive person, without splitting up?

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Im sorry to say there is no such thing as a balenced relationship.. you might think you had one and she has given you the illusion that you've got one..

you need to detach yourself from her.. i.e. give a shit but dont be needy.. and as for the jealousy aspect its because you've given everything up to be with her.. go get some hobbies for christ sake lol treat yourself like your meant to be treated (a god)

Game other women in a playful manner and you'll have this girl chasing back in no time.. you need to get over the negatives.

The situation isnt that bad i was little bit sad yesterday so i was exagerating lttle bit. But i think totti, your way and working on my inner game will fix this little + the jealousy problem and i still dont have to break up. Thanks a lot!

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Show her who are you, back your alfa, be a man. Yes, jealous is powerful tool, and long with my girlfriend, and a little jealous makes me try harder doing something, it's like a push to be better, to learn something, to be better and anything, use it, but don't fantasize about it, cause you will fear of what you've created, for example that drunken teenagers will fuck her in all the ways it can be done. Stop thinking, say to yourself that you have value, and you're better than any of her friends, that's why you're her boyfriend, not any of those teens.

Thats no worries mate.. try not to let these things get to you. When you feel they are, go and game some other women.

Today we met up again, and it was perfect as per normal. No problems nothing.
I was just thinking because on the weekend she was telling me in a cute and funny way that she wants to be the alpha male in our relationship, she was joking but do you think i can interpret it like this: I am right now the alpha male, she acknowledes it and nothings fucked up? or is it just nothing ?

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She was testing the water, dont flip out next time just handle it. Keep it together man, thats how they need and want us

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I like to hybrid techniques, inner game and methods with my own natural game.

dont worry i didnt flip out i was just wondering if theres a meaning behind it, besides a test

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good man

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I like to hybrid techniques, inner game and methods with my own natural game.

and by the way, i found out why i really am that jealous. It is because of a lack of confidence. I can project cofidence to others BUT when I am alone, i know i am not confident, its somehow fake. I am in many ways insecure, so my fear is that a higher value guy comes along and takes my girl. And it is as well because wenn she is drunk she getts horny and needy... i trust her, but i dont trust alcohol and the other guys around...

Any tips, links, articles or whatever to fix this inner problem of mine?

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