K so heres the thing I hooked back up with an ex (shhh I know)
and I jokingly brought up how we should get married and it turned into a serious thing with a set date and everything....

Now heres the twist:

last time we were together we were sleeping together constantly, this time however the most we have done was dry hump....once (wtf?)

I cant even kiss her goodnite ( I know what your thinking just wait)

So I started thinking no attraction.

yet....

she gives all decisions to me (not in a co-dependant way, in the way that females do when they REALLY like a guy...)

Everytime I drop her off... she asks when I'm goin to stop by and almost always suggests the next day.

If I'm carrying something she'll take it and carry it for me (never seen her do that for anyone)

She'll stay up texting me until she falls asleep...

and so on and so forth....

I really checked the whole marriage thing and apparently she is 100% serious about it....

I really want things to turn sexual but it seems that she doesn't.

Everytime I try and bringing it up she gets really emotional and defensive...

So WTF is going on and how can I get her to be more sexual?

Any and all advice welcome....

Is that how it really went down? "I jokingly brought up how we should get married and it turned into a serious thing with a set date and everything"?

Are you for real on this marraige thing? It doesn't seem like the timing is of your choice.

Thats how it really went down.

"Are you for real on this marriage thing? It doesn't seem like the timing is of your choice."

Can you be more specific?

Well I guess my question is, is that what you really want to do?

Marriage is HUGE.

So I guess my concern is wether this is really something you are eager and confident about.

The rest is secondary.

Hey, I'm not busting marriage, it can be a wonderful thing. But it is something you do have to be pretty certain about.

That's all.
Good luck man!

No worries I'm more surprised than anything lol. I like the path that I'll be headed down.

Its just that without any sexual touch going on it makes everything a bit .........weird.

So any thoughts on whats happening?

Well in general terms in these situations, something either changed in you or it changed in her.

First on your end, are you still that same hot/confident guy you were before, when you got her in the first place? Do you dress the same, look the same? Or have you fallen into the married patern and are just cruising? That can be a bit of a bore.

If you've changed then her level of attraction for you will change and that is not something she can control. But it seems beyond that.

On her side,,, dear god, I hope nothing bad has happened to her since you've been apart. That's a possibility. It could be a medical condition. She also may have some weird mental twitch attached to this marriage deal. Or it could be some other issue.

In the end, the answer lies with her. You'd have to ask her. This is beyond a small loss of attraction.

Here's my take. If you are going to be married you have to have tools to deal with problems. Because they will arise. There has got to be a huge ammount of trust and respect.

SO when you get into a situation like you are in right now. You ask "Hey, what's up? I've notived this" And she saids,, "Yeah, this is what's going on".

I'd sit her down, if you guys are really planning to wed, she ought to answer that question.

Just my 2 cents worth Chief...

Good luck.

"Well in general terms in these situations, something either changed in you or it changed in her."

LOL thats it right there.

And I was just explaining that to someone a few days ago....

Thanx!

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