Hey guys!
This forum is awesome, so glad i stumbled upon it!
This'll be one of my first posts, and it hurts me to the gut, i know you guys know how it feels. . .

I met this model 10 months ago, we've been travelling the world and everything and now she's modelling in asia while i'm back in sweden.
The whole long distance relationship thing has worked really really well, she would always start the msn chat and always tell me she loved me and stuff.

However. . . a few days ago she started hanging with a new group of people, there are guys but none of them are a threat.
But she's out partying every night and she's changed.
She doesn't tell me she loves me until i tell her i love her, and she barely seems like she wants to talk to me anymore.
Then i became a needy dickless crap for about 3 days, until i realized how low i had stooped.
So i appologized for the behavior and told her i'm not the type to get jealous or worry, she then says "you shouldnt be jelous youre the best".
Yet she still feels distant.

I'm thinking i should refrain from initiating ANY form of contact until she does, she has to write first, she has to call first etc. . . .
Do you think this is the right course of action? Please help me someone, i really don't want to loose her, and before my little breakdown, we used to talk about marriage, she said she loved me as much as she loved her family, I was considered her best friend, and all kinds of things. . . i hope i haven't blown it. I'm such a fkin idiot. . ..

Moral of this story, NEVER become a pussy no matter WHAT happens, i learnt the hard way. . . .
Any tips, would make me so grateful and i will be forever grateful to you. . . please help!

Wow man. You are losing it. Sorry to hear this story.

However, have you read "The Game" by Neil Strauss?

Go to your library and look for it... or...

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Congrats on getting this model. It seems to me like she has just now
got introduced into the party scene of being a model. She might be into
drugs now as well man. If this is the case, she cannot be helped. If she is
not into drugs, then great.

If you really want to keep this girl, you should read the two books that
I posted above. These books have everything that you will need in order
to keep this girl interested in you.

Hell, you will even be able to calm yourself down about this girl acting
the way she is acting toward you.

Be sure to pay attention to how Style (Neil) got and kept his now wife,
Lisa. That is in the book, and is a definite read.

If you want the actual book, which is recommended, go to your library, or
go to Barnes and Nobles and buy it. It is not only referred to as the
"Man's Bible" because it looks like a Bible, it also is one of the BEST
books any PUA can have in his library.

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Hahah yeh man, seriously, i never knew i could go this way, always thought i was in control of myself, i'll tell ya though it's damn calming reading this forum i love it.

Yeh i've read the game, i gotta read the part about his wife though, forgot that part, and thanks for the two provided links!

Naaaah this chick is party hardcore. . . . . She comes from australia and all her friends there did drugs. . . including her and we went to model parties pretty much everynight of the week when we were living and travelling together.
I managed to talk her out of drugs and she tagged down on the partying even, so in her own words, i've managed to change her, which feels good hehe.

Thanks for the tip on Style's wife, imma give it a look see
Appreciate the effort, nice to know helpfull people haven't disappeared

There are ups and downs in long distance relationships; you both need to keep occupied with activities outside of just each other. That way you are living your lives with each other, rather than you obsessing over her while she is out having fun. Just because she is distant, doesn't mean she has stopped loving you....I know, it is hard, but it'll work out!

Also, don't change how you are treating her. If you want, ask for a little more of her time every once in a while. It isn't a matter of becoming a pussy, in relationships it happens. Especially when separated. It will reinforce things, make her know that you still care. Schedules vary, and when hers slows down again, things will be fine.



p.s. They split up in '05 err '06

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Once again, thank you so much for your help leprechaun, i will send an email and check out the books.

Locke, thank you very much for your help, i've tried telling her i need more attention, but she got pissed, she actually said "Everytime i talk to you it's like this, nothing is ever enough" "I don't want this relationship to be too hard to fulfill" ffs. . . . . i hate her but i love her. . . don't know what to do, i don't think i can ask her for more attention anymore do you have any tips? What if i do ignore her for a while?

well it all depends man....if she is giving everything she can, and you keep bringing it up, then she is going to get the impression her "all" isn't enough for you. In which case, that will start to build resentment or disappointment in herself.

You can chose to make a concession and pick up some hobbies and fill your time with other stuff--let her have some more freedom and room to more, or you can chose to let her completely go.

Remember man: there is always an end to the long distance relationship. Whether it's no longer long distance, or no longer a relationship. Sweat it out for a while and take your mind off of it. She needs room to breath, and if you take it from her, she will fight her way out.

Give her what she needs, or move on to someone who is more fitting of your expectations.

How long is she going to be gone for?

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Yeeeh dude. . .. just that, i've got one itis bad and i can't find myself finding anyone better, even when i was over there around all the modelling i still found her the most stunning, that's why i'm so afraid man. . .
She'll be modelling around europe like 2 months from now. . . and i know if i can just make it last that long it'll work out. . . . .i just need to find a way how, and at the moment it seems that giving her a cold shoulder for a while will make things better, like you said, give her a breather. . .. .
Apreciate the help man. . . ya think a cold shoulder might be the only way SPAM?

a cold shoulder is not the solution; maybe go find a temporary girl to keep your mind off of her. I don't know how comfortable she would be with that, or where you two stand, but it could be a way to chill for the time being

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no, thats the end. move on, move on, move on.

She wasn't/isn't ready to settle and she won't be able to ever give you what you are looking for. So instead of thinking that you can fix things, understand that there is nothing to fix -- you two arn't going to work.

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Hey,

first of all you've got to deal with your sexual jealousy, and you need to deal with this regardless of whether you stay with the model or find a new model.

Sexual jealousy is corrosive for the spirit, emasculates men, and reduces our options with women. It's just the outcome of some bizarre moral code.

So, think long and hard about the function of jealousy, put it to one side for ever, then make a decision. IMO I'd drop the model and find a new one.

cheers,

Phil

She is done, for now.

Find another love interest until she comes back... if she comes back.

If she calls you, be too busy to talk to her.

If she asks you what you have to do, make something up.

Always be "too busy to talk" the first 2 times she calls you. But on the third,
talk to her for at least 15-20 minutes, and then YOU be the one to get off
the phone first. Tell her that you have a date in an hour and that you need
to get ready.

You want to make her jealous now. Well, make her jealous and make her
work for your time (which is more valuable than her right now).

Why is it more valuable than her right now? Because you now have all
those hotties that you turned down because of this "one" girl, vieing for
your attention, and your touch. XD

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Thanks guys, apreciate it all, strange i don't feel sadder than i am. . . i know it's gonna be hard to find another girl like her, but there are more out there.
I'm really greatful toward all of you, thanks guys!

You can lock or throw this post out now if you want

have sex with another women and tell her about it in great detail see if she gets jealous