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Here's the situation. I'll try and keep it short.
I met a girl through a friend. She had just broken up with her long distance boy friend the week before. I slept with her(no sex) the first night we met. We had lunch the next day, talked and had a good time. Eventually she invited me to stick around again that night, which ended up being about 2-3 weeks that I stuck around. After being married for 3yrs, I know that people need space and tried to give it to her. When I went out and crashed on a friend's couch she bitched at me for not coming back. Damned if I do, damned if I dont.
Christmas is coming up and she had planned to return home before she met me. So I volunteered to watch her place and cat while she was away so her friend didnt have to drive 45mins every day. She was cool with that and I already had a key to her place. The night before I'm out with her best friend(a guy) and we're totally getting sauced up. Of course the talk is about her and I let it slip that we were sleeping together. I thought nothing of it, went back to her place and slept with her. Next day I drop her off at the bus station and she's gone for a couple weeks.
The day after that I get a very angry call from her, completely going off about what I said earlier to her friend. I told her that I was sorry and wasnt aware that it was that big of a deal to her. Everyone already knew we were sleeping together. Long conversations short, she told me to get the fuck out of her house and leave her key. I did and figured that was the most fucked up thing I had happen to me in a while.
Days go past, x-mas comes and I drop her a merry x-mas text. Eventually we get talking again and she would call me daily. Shit, she even drunk called me once and on a seperate occasion she wanted to have phone sex. January 1st she tells me she wants to fly in on my b-day(Jan 2nd) and wanted to know if I'd come and pick her up. I told her I would if she'd be my DD for that night, she agreed. I pick her up and she's glad to see me. We go out and at 11pm, ELEVEN MOTHER FUCKING PM, she tells me she's tired and wants to go home. WTF, right? What ever, I bring her home and have a great fucking night.
So, besides my b-day, everything is going good again. I'm not stayin with her, but I am still seeing her and getting booty. She was going to drive home with her friend to trade in her car for one her dad had(2-wheel drive to 4-wheel drive) because she didnt like how it handled in the snow. She wrecked it once already. Her friend couldnt go that weekend, so I stepped up and said I could drive with her. She made up some bullshit story about how I shouldnt meet her parents. WTF ever, I knew I'd have a good time with or without her.
Here's where the real fucked up shit happens, she drives back with one of her girl friends and is completely ignoring my texts and calls. I'm thinking, wtf is this all about when she finally returns one of my calls. I said "hey, nice to talk to ya. You ignoring me or something". She says "I have something to tell you." Now I'm thinking, ohhh fuck... what now? She goes on to say that she got back with her ex-boyfriend and what ever we were before had to stop. I was speechless and she said she had another call and dropped my call. I sent her a text shortly after, "That is really messed up and I dont let my friends treat me like that. Do us both a favor and lose my number." I hang out with a mutal friend and he let me know what she did was really fucked up, meaning her going home with out me was to get her ex back.
For anyone bored enough to get this far, could you please give me some feed back? Should I not of burnt the bridge? Should I try and put her into my friend circle? I had and still have some strong feelings for her.
It sounds that you two have a lot of mutual friends. In which case, you should be friendly and respectful to her whenever she is around...and don't be malicious about her behind her back (nor to your friends). Outside of that, it is time to move on. You don't need to put up with the kind of stuff she put you through.
However, you also need to work on some of your inner game. Why would you spend that long with a woman you just met? You are supposed to work your way up to that, build and build. YOu just set a mansion on top of no foundation. Eventually, it was going to crack. Start slower next time. Make the sexual escalation one of your first things (instead of bonding before you have sex, bond afterwards. This way you will truly know if there is a connection). No more of this house sitting, and no more of this sleeping in someones bed you just met without closing.
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