OK, here is the situation..

I have been seeing this girl, we have a very very very strong connection..

ok, i live in Tallahassee, she lives in Pensacola.. 3 hours give or take away from here, she comes back home (to tallahassee) every weekend or 2.. and she says that she doesn't think she should be in a relationship this semester because she has a hard time staying commited. and she doesn't want to break my heart.. she tells me she loves me but i don't know.. is she playing mind games? or how do i convince her things will be alright?

please help. i don't want to lose her.

then tell her fine peace....just tell her you like her but goodbye because she obvously cant make her mind up.

you're right, but we have been wanting to be together for a while, and now that she is finally single and i am also..

we hooked up twice on the weekend she was here.. and after that we were really close.. texting each other all the time.. and just everything was good..

then this weekend when she was supposed to come she flaked.. saying she was really busy with school, and that she would come back next weekend..

mind you i didn't do anything wrong here.. fucking girls..

so what do you want with her a fuck budy or a gf? If you care about her then let her go....and if she cares about you she will come back to you.

Life sucks man....I think i might have just lost the girl I was with because of the same problem you are in and I fucked another chick.....its not worth it eather you are with her or you arnt.

Somone will get hurt if your not.

not everyone wants to take things that fast man. and not everyone may feel liek they are completely free to experience life if they have a long distance relationship they are in.

RYGuy: Tell her that you two will get and have space, but that you would like to keep things at a basic level so when the time comes, you guys can work towards more. Until then, have fun doing whatever. You are not there to be her anchor, nor her yours. Find a midpoint.

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that is a very good point.. we do have a strong connection, and at this point, she doesn't want to be committed because she cant keep a relationship longer than 3 months and she doesn't want to hurt me.

i guess that this is a good thing.. it pretty much just sucks. it's like the feeling you get when you get broken up with, although we never started dating.. i dont understand.. lol

In "The Game" Neil Strauss explains to be good with women you have to be not afraid of losing them. If you give her the vibe that you have more options she will probably want you more. She is basically running the game that you should be doing on her.

Another thing, quit having feelings for girls that are not relationship material, you should only fuck those girls.

you know what? you are effin right..

i'm going to do a freeze-out for a day or 2 and see what she does..

I've been where she is.

If her mind is made up, there's no changing it...right now anyway. Sometimes, the anticipation and wondering "What did I lose?" will make her reconsider in a while. Sometimes it will take a week sometimes a semester.

Believe her when she tells you that she loves you...because she probably does in some way. But don't "wait" for her. Go out, live life, keep your eyes open. If you both feel it when she comes back for summer or whatever, see where things go then.

As someone said above, Let her go...she might come back 10 times more willing.

Man, I think that you are in love with this girl because you are really affected by the situation. My advice: Wait a couple of days and see what happens. Girls ALWAYS come back, ALWAYS, and thats something Ive learned in my life. She explained her point of view, now its your turn to wait for her move. You just cant do anything rigth now, just wait and see what happens. bye man

thanks guys for the help..

if you love something you have to set it free.. and if i comes back then you should cherish it forever..

i have heard that before.. and i am going to stick to it..

thanks bros.

[quote]if you love something you have to set it free.. and if i comes back then you should cherish it forever.. [quote]

You sound like a chick, if she came back to me after screwing the football team I would not take her back. She will probably return to you once she gets fucked over by plenty of losers, and you will be waiting for her with open arms like a chump, and she knows it.
I get the idea you are young yet you sound like you are looking to be in a committed elationship and not explore your options, the problem with this is that alot of guys settle with just any chick who offers him some attention.

hmm.. i disagree with you.. see i have dated around to see what i like and i don't like.. and she isn't the type of girl to go and sleep around with guys.. she is alot like me.. only being with someone she haas really strong feelings for.. we have been talking and things are getting kind of better.. well see the next time she is in town.

Trust somone who has been through it....she is saying the things she is because he knows you are both young and living in diffrent cities....she will happen. Keep in touch and with time if its ment to be it will happen....but i wouldnt fuck her because it will bring you both back into the same mess.

sorry that made no sens haha i need to start reading my shit over before I post lol any ways bro think with your head and not with your heart on this one....i know it sounds cold! but somtimes your heart can get you in trouble and I know we often want every thing to work out like its a movie.....but life is not like that.