ok i know this question has been blasted out probably millies of times but...How do i break up with the girl? we've been going for like 5 mths and im just not happy anymore, things that i c disgust me about her and i cant seem to figure out what made me want her in the first place and yes she looks good, in case some of you wanna know. im in a rut i need some help....o yea im real good wit the fam and shes a real strong opinionated person gotta figure this out and it's the holidays soon ughh...so.... how to break up wit her while maintaining a friendship with her????... advice asap


o yea f.y.i. i put this topic in relationships but seeing as many puas probably dont like relationships this is probably y i got no reponse so i put it in a populated area now dont hate ...lol

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Just put all the blame on yourself and speak truthfully (obviously sweetened up for female consumption). I split up with a girl and am still good mates with her using the I don't think I want to be in a relationship right now speech. Be ready for what has changed etc stay slightly ambiguous in your answers and when she keeps probing change the subject with I still want to stay friends, she will loose her train of thought then you just have to escape and let her think it over.

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just be honest and tell her its not working. why lie or beat around the bush? its going to end up in a breakup anyway. just dont be insulting

its easier to break up with someone when u know they dont care about you or are expecting it. start to show signs of neglect, then she will be expecting it (somewhat) and not give you that guilty feeling during the break up speech. when she gets over it, then you guys can be friends.

okay sounds great i just need to form a way to do this what if she says y what did i do?

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if she asks why, i would just continue with the "its just not working out" tell her she just isnt compatible with you or something. you dont want to explain why by telling her things she cant change or are very hard to change. that will really hurt her. i guess in a way, it is "you and not her" but i hate the line so much and it has no meaning anymore

You could always drop in a speech about how love is fluid and that you should cherish the time you had together rather than focus on the end

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one more thing is it fine to do this over the phone since i dont really see her as often anymore

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You need to make it straight to the point and clear. You don't want to give her the impression that their is a chance of you two getting back together. Simply say that you don't feel like you are compatible and things are just not working. No need to lie. If she still asks why then tell her. It might not help in your relationship, but she should know the reasons to better herself in future relationships.

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Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

yeah just dont say "your boobs are too small" or "you ass isnt shaped nicely" lol

i would NOT do this over the phone if u want to remain friends with her. plus that will lower your social value to anyone she tells.

ok thanks yall imma let u kno how it goes

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ok fellas im up late at 2:40am in the morning and me and the woman had a

convo about breaking up it's funny though when u have the convo there is

moments of silence and pauses quite annoying but anyway we talked and i

kept bringing the break up but it seemed like she was in denial and didnt

want to break up so it was hard to keep putting my words of break up in

ughh but yeah worse thing too her battery was dying just when i was to

close the deal of breaking up her battery died SUCKSKSKSKSKS ughhhhhh i know it took this long to break up too well fellas and sum ladies any thoughts?

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told u not to do it over the phone

This is exactly right. I can't add anything else to it. But just examine your motives here....do you really want to be friends with her after or are you just saying that because you know, she is nice and that is what most people say....because it is easier to say "let's just be friends." You are going to have to realize that you can't be friends right away. In all honesty you will have to go a while without talking to her (at least a month or so) before you can even begin a friendship.

yeah i realize the phone is not the best way to do it but out here in cali im too busy to be breakin up in person also if i did do it in person i would be involved in some family activity for the holidays and im not interested in that and then if i do it there she will get broken up with and there is going to be and unspoken tension so i guess it was my only option to use the phone i know sounds like rationalization but hey... well i'mma see wat happenes tonite hopefully we know we're broken up if not imma use the advice given so we'll c

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Dont do it on the phone, you will regret it.. Also it is new years it is a mokment for hopes not break ups. Keep tight for the momment. I broke up with a girl on the phone, my last gf, I will tell you what, after a lot of fights I got upset one day, in fact I got tired. So I said her on the phone I would not like to meet her that I needed some time, indeed I was needing it, she said ethere is no such time as a time it is a break up, and it was on the phone, was very bad. Don´t do it on the phone.