This is a complicated situation. So I figured I'd bring it here. Anyone else would hear this and call me a shallow piece of shit, but people here are honest and realize the natural laws of attraction, and we can't change em... Ok so here we go...

Basically my boss is trying to match me up with her neice. Let me describe this girl, I started talking to her on the phone, because she is away at school right now, and I already graduated. So she sends me a few pictures, and she is just a little thick, but really really f'n cute. I was thinking 8.5 status with the eyes, smile, and good tan.

Well I stumble across her myspace, and see the REST of her pictures. While she still has a beautiful face, she is "thicker" than I thought she was. I'd say a little beyond thick getting SLIGHTLY into the chubby catergory.

Now dont get me wrong, I would hook up with this girl in a second. I've been with a bigger girl before, and I won't lie, they can get down just as well in the bedroom. But this girl is a damn sweetheart. She has an A+ personality and is sweet as all get out!! She also has the potential to be hot hot hot if she lost like 20-25 lbs. I mean, if she lost some weight, she'd be perfect.

Ok ok ok, now most people's first reaction would be, you are a shallow piece of shit! But really, am I? I am being very honest... physical attraction is an important part of a relationship, and I wont be attracted in the long run to someone who doesnt take care of their body.

I'm obviously not going to hurt her feelings and tell her she's fat or anything. I am very into working out and staying in my best shape, and she knows that. But that doesnt necessarily always translate to her wanting to lose weight....

Ok tricky situation but what would u guys do? She is a great girl. As far as physically, I almost think of her like a rusty 67 Camaro that would be a BEAST if it was restored a bit... Any chance you'd take a chance and hope that somehow you'd find a way to "support" her in some weight loss effort.

(Also another disclaimer, I was a personal trainer before I got into my sales job, so I am also concerned about people's health. It is a natural reaction to me)

Hobbit's right. The one sure way to set yourself up for failure is to go into a relationship thinking you're going to change something about the other person, and if you're not totally attracted to her from the get-go you're not being fair to either of you. Let this one go, bro.

lol, Now there is only one way possible I could think of a way to make her lose weight. Do physically activities together. Go to the gym together, swim, spin class, dancing, etc.

Get into something fun that is active. It will be yall little thing to do, but there is no way to MAKE her lose weight, but it will help your chances. Also sports make people more confident.

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You're on a PICKUP ARTIST site. We ALL want the hottest of the hottest women. Stop trying to defend yourself and be completely unapologetic for your true desires. And there are no bitchy feminist women who crack a whip on men who poke their honest heads out from the tyrannical PC deluge of society here. The closest thing we have to that is a hot blonde chick who responds to men comparing women to dogs by whining about it in her blog (lol much love to you, Zip).

Anyways, the feminine essence responds positivity to praise while it is the masculine that responds to constructive criticism. You have to praise her by telling her how sexy she looks when she's sweating in her exercise clothes and shit like that. Resorting to any form of criticism will only make things worse.

I've been in this situ. Beautiful girl who worked min wage. Her family told her she was fat and stupid. She's now a model, a philosopher and a confident person. I took her on active dates a lot. When she stayed at mine in the mornings we would go to the gym. I discussed stuff with her and bought her books. Most of all I complimented and encouraged her.

I left her better than I found her.

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Whoopie is right. That's the only way to do it. However, the second she realizes it's because YOU want her to lose weight, it's going to embarrass her and she won't talk to you anymore.

Ask her to go hiking with you or join a weekly kickboxing class because it's something YOU enjoy and want her to be involved in. Not because you want HER to get healthy. Then, if she does get involved enough to start having positive results (which is PROBABLY not going to happen, but just in case) then only COMPLIMENT her on how much she's glowing. How she looks so healthy, her skin shines, all that. NOT how much weight she's lost.

She'll start feeling better and associate her new confidence with you.

And, Chief, I'm not a feminist. I'm not anti-feminist. I'm humanist.

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