so how do you break-up with a girl?

advice, do's and dont's?

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"Never be afraid to try something new. Always remember: Amateurs built the ark. Professionals built the Titanic"

Always say no when you really mean it.

Comprehensive guide to breaking up with a girl:

Say "I really think that this isn't working out for me anymore".

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There is NO secret ingredient. Theres just you.

Been dumped yourself? The quicker it is, the more painful it is, the easier and quicker it is to deal with.

My last ex explained that she wanted to cool things off, we'd still "be b/f and g/f but with less commitment". What she meant was "you're dumped" but it took five weeks of no sex, argue and general headf*** before she'd admit that's what she'd meant all along... and she had a new boyfriend. She just couldn't handle confrontation. Cow.

The last time I got dumped before that it was just "I don't think we should go out any more"... I was gutted but over it in a week.

I've really had it up to here with my girl, she' making my head hurt like a botched trepanning session...

I figure she's told me enough times she wants to be with me for life, and if I felt that about someone I'd want them to give me a good last chance... but the ice is thin and she's skating with a backpack full of lead.

One final thing, be compassionate: DON'T dump her the morning before her job interview/ the morning her mother died... unless she's really pissed you off in which case do it and do it for all us guys Best is the day before she's due to spend time with female relatives or friends, esp if they're going on holiday (added bonus is she'll be out of the country and out of harms way). They'll spend a few days calling you things you'd never want to hear, slandering you, being vicious and plotting revenge, but at least she'll feel better about it all and recover quicker. If necessary, call her sister and ask when would be a good time... Sister will probably arrange to go and look after her.

Breathe, it's done, it's over.

Then screw the sister.

In person, I was dumped via e-mail once, that sucks!

HAH! Me too mate, me too!

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There is NO secret ingredient. Theres just you.

Sitting here writing this it feels like I'm in one of the most complicated situations i've been in up to now.

I am a Swedish speaking Australian from Brisbane. About 2 or 3 weeks ago I went to a pub crawl organised by the local scandinavian university club here.

I tried to organise a wing as I'd never been out sarging on my own. I couldn't find one in time and ended up going alone. It began well. I sarged the place to the floor, with limited sucess. By the time the night was coming to a close the I had two girls who were possibilites for K closing.

I ended up with a norwegian girl. She was a 9 blonde with nice boobs and just a waist just chubby enough to be cute. By her way of speaking to me she deminstrated that she was the selector of most of her relationships.

I did my best with the knowledge i knew to combat it. I told her that I was very choosy with girls, though she trumped me by chatting up another bloke while she held my hand, and in all fairness its been a one way game ever since then.

As this is the first time that i've made it past the first night with a girl after about month of on and off sarging I didn't want to cast her aside and keep going because I wanted to see what was the next stage of all this fun.

After about a week and a half I we ended up back at her place where things quickly lead to her bedroom for an F-close that ended with her crying to her room mate about how she feels guilty for sleeping with me when she isn't really sure how things are with ....

wait get this....

HER BOYFRIEND BACK IN NORWAY! She told me that they were on a break.... Aparently not.

After she left the apartment to go and walk her tears of leaving me alone in her apartment pacing around the room with a mixture of feelings. I eventually decided not to wait any more and go and find her.

We ended up eventually back in her bed making out and doing all sorts of sexual things (which involved me pleasing her).

Everytime we've been out since it feels like I'm giving her all the attention and getting none in return. In turn my attraction for her has become almost completely no-existant and I keep thinking about how much I want to get back out and sarge and try and improve my game.

Though, I have started developing feelings for her am thinking that maybe I could turn this around so that she is trying to get attention from me.

I just want your oppinions as to what I should do.

Cheers,
Striker

just tell your done

One of my MLTRs just told me that she's going to be exclusive with her BF... By e-mail. Man that sucked!

Cut it.

Cut it off.

Cut all ties.

Be clear.

Be blunt if you have to.

And just...walk away.

Simple. Hard, but simple.

Do the right thing. Holding on prolongs the inevitable. Be brave and just fucking do it. Make your intentions known, your terms known. There are two people in a relationship. Don't let the other person rule over what you think for yourself.

Similarly, don't fuck around with them either. Be clear. Be blunt. And walk.

Thanks guys, definatly the right descision to make. I found a good quote online to go with this

" Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go. ~Author Unknown " from http://www.quotegarden.com/teen-heart.html

Ride off into the sunset.








if you dont have the pride to do that, hook up with all her friends.
^i've seen that work before, (the relationship got back together after she became jealous that the guy was dating her friends)

There are multiple ways to end a relationship.

1. You do it.
Many have said it in this thread; do it in person, cut all ties, no false hopes, quick and painfull.

2. Do it togeather/Let her do it
You should never let the woman lead the relationships, but hey, here you could! Become disasociated with her, use some NLP to make her feel less attracted. Act like a wuss. Buy her flowers. Be over-romantic. Ignore her. Tell her about all your "problem" (make them up ffs! be sad over nothing). Be boring, be predictable. Make up your plan on how to make her stop feeling attracted!!! That's the least painfull way, since she won't suffer as much (it's YOUR fault, in her opinion =D!).

But it takes time and COULD fail. You could combine them.

Depends on how much you really care. If you are a cold person SMS(texts)/MSN/E-mail would do fine. Why care about ugly women that you will never meet again? Of cource, if youll have to meet this person in the future, you need to plan on how to act more carefully.

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Style: Who do you think lies more...
DeAngelo: What's up fool?
AFC: Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?

"I'm not ready for any kind of committed relationship; I think we should end things now befoe either of us begin to fall in love with me - err, the other..."

Or something along those lines anyway. That's the truth for me, so that's what I stick with.

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"Plan only what you must and live for the present - for tomorrow everything could change." - Personal Motto.

Now why would you even say that man ? How would you feel is your significant other was deliberately cultivating an image of unattractiveness in your head for her because she didnt respect you enough to tell you outright?

Very very low thing to do.

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The best option is to just tell her straight that you arent feeling it anymore. Your hearts not in it and you arent dragging on any relationship that you're unhappy in.

Best of luck to you man, let us know how it goes down.