I saw a post on here that was written extremely well so I am going to imitate that but change the scenario to mine. Preface: i haven't ever seen any get back together strategies or lists of being broke up advice. post free at will

The girl
She has everything from amazing looks, smarts, confidence, aggressive attitude, 24 years old,honest and blunt (always says what she is really thinking). She can be a little needy, get jealous, gets high anxiety, but i dig all of that in a weird way.

The Situation
We have dated exclusively for 4 months in a long distance relationship. the first two months we were together and the last two months we had to go long distance. We saw each other almost every two weeks and got to spend 4 days with each other every time. We talked almost every night on the phone for an hour or so and texted back and forth during the day. The Long Distance part is what i believe killed the relationship. I was not needy in the begining and that drove her crazy. I would be the one to let her start calls and texts most of the time. This changed because her needy side got the best of me. I had completely fallen for this girl and went total AFC. I started to send I love you texts a lot and express the way i felt about her too much.
-Distance started to grow from her side around 3 weeks ago.
-2 weeks ago she told me she was having doubts about us. and we went on a break
-4 days ago she broke up with me because she says she couldn't see us together.
She definately was in love with me, and definately expressed that. the long distance relationship is not the reason that she lost feelings for me, but how I went about expressing the way i felt about her i feel is.

What I have done so far
During the break period i was pretty AFC. I told her i loved her right when we were going on the break and that she was the only person i felt that way about. we didn't talk a lot, but i gave her a lot of space and didnt try to convince her to stay with me. I wanted to let her have space to think about things. we haven't talked a lot since the breakup, maybe once or twice for 5-10minutes.

I really want to get this girl back. It is really difficult because i can only send her emails, text, or call her. She has already made the decision she doesn't think that we will work.
**Is there anything I should or shouldn't do.** I am seeing her again later this month to pick up some things. ***Should i write a letter, because that is what i really want to do. What are some things i should put in it, and what are the things that i should definately leave out?***

Hey dude,

I believe u're refering to my post? Yeah we are both in this LDR crap aren't we.

Well yes, I think the becoming needy part is what pushed her away from
you. The fundamental problem is not that you started expressing your feelings. Try to see it from her point of view. You have this guy u really love, and finally he shows you that he loves you too, but now the logical next step would be an amazing time together, but NO u can't coz u are in an LDR. So, it is a logical decision to stop right there before
feeling too much sadness or depression that you can't be with the guy you love. Adding to that, yeah probably u just overdid it at some point that even she couldn't stand it anymore.

Okay well, I think what you should now to in order to get her back, is next time you see her, win her back by being the same way u got her in the first place. She wouldn't wanna be around you if u put a burden/expectations orginated from you relationship. Make it light and fun
so she can see again what made her fall for you in the first place.

Instead of giving her the sweet sugar "I love you baby" kind of messages like all the time, be cool most of the time, and build up on the sweetness right before you two can actually meet, like 1,2 days before the next time of u 2 together. That way, she can take the happy feelings and look forward to meeting you in the near future. (man, what i'd give to see my girl every 2 weeks for 4 whole days!!)

If you are successful, then you know what mistakes not to make. I wouldn't recommend to write that letter (though im actually a fan of letters). I just dont believe a letter could fix ur relationship. I'd say the best bet is to start anew. And once she asks you how you think you 2 can work out, it's a sign that she'd like to go at it again, but just needs to hear
your point of view. Tell her ofc that you firmly believe it's gonna work, that your relationship will have more quality and don't do the same mistakes again hehe.

Btw, isn't there a way to chat over messenger for u 2? I find it the best way to communicate with my LDR gf. Well of course you both would be spending a lot of time on computers, which is in my case no problem.

I went through a similar situation. Refer to Need Help With Girlfriend(a thread in this forum). Let me tell you what I did. My gf, who I got back, is the same as any smart, confident, very attractive female. I was an ass hole to her, honestly. I acted as if none of it really mattered to me, and I went out and hooked up with another girl. She even dated another guy, and as stated in my thread, is probably an rAFC like myself. You can't let her get you down. You can't allow yourself to falter. You have to go sarging. Go find girls. Go social proof yourself. Girls love it when they know you aren't exclusive(I will elaborate) and that you are capable of getting with a girl that could rival them. It helps you out as well. Who doesn't love the company of a HB9/10 when you're trying to get over your ex?

When I said that girls enjoy a man who isn't exclusive to them I didn't mean inside of a relationship. My girlfriend knows I am exclusive to her, but she also knows that it wouldn't kill me if we broke up. She knows I love her, but I'd find a way to maintain and even improve myself if we werent' together. Find a passion for self improvement. Always be positive. ALWAYS. Breakups are the single biggest motivation for me to imrpove my game, my outlook on life, my appearance, and every aspect of who I am as a person.

Keep your head up. Think rationally, not emotionally. That's what got my gf and I back together. Keep your ex at arm's length. Act cool and composed. You have your life in control.

I'm very new to the game(hence didn't know what I was doing) and so have come across the exact same problem and timeline. So, please be friendly. I don't know if this belongs on this thread, but it is kind of an extension to the original problem

I think the first reply is the way to go but I have cut her off completely, zero communication. I took the attitude that I have enough friends but I don't know if she has the confidence to get in touch with me first. She sees me as way out of her league. How can I/should I initiate contact, so I can put that earlier reply into action?

Her emotions will be all over hte place she'll want me back but won't be able to see it . (weird like that) Which leads me to my next question.

I'm worried if I follow the example I'll leave with too much room to manouevre. How do I cut down her options? The LDR has to continue for while yet. Shes said that its just not the same as before. This is a possible out for her, right? What if she says she just wants out?

no letter!

Thanks for all of the advice. I did NOT send a letter and definately do not think it would have been a good idea anymore. I ended up playing everything off like breaking up wasn't a big deal and hinting that i didnt think it was bad. I definately showed more of a fun side and completely stopped initiating any type of affectionate communication. We text each other back and forth for the most part and talked occasionally on the phone. Everything was working perfectly and getting back together was for sure, but a new problem has arisen.

***NEW PROBLEM***
The roadblock came in the form of a picture on facebook. It actually was innocent but came off as MAKING ME LOOK LIKE i wasn't taking the break up seriously and that I was hooking up with a close female friend. The picture was actually really dumb--me at a bar taking a "suck and blow" shot ( its a kind of jello shot that you have to take with two people) with my friend... the shitty thing is i only saw my friend on the way to the bathroom and she shoved this dumbass shot in my mouth, took a picture and that was it. I had no idea this was posted on facebook and the ex saw 5 minutes after it was posted. She texted me in seconds, tottally blew out of proportion, numerous im dones and go to hells and F' you's. The savior of this was I had already sent her flowers for her birthday and they showed up two days later. I sent a text appologizing for hurting her on her birthday(two days later). She had text back a few things and said i love you. That was a definate good sign. The problem is we never talked about her getting pissed again, so i feel like it was left unresolved. She responds to texts, but comes off very short and distant. A previous guy she dated is writing a lot on her wall, and i want to confront that with her, but i know that would be a K.O to any chance of a relationship because i dont think that jealousy would help me in this situation.

***QUESTIONS I NEED ANSWERS TO***

What kind of things can i send in a text message to fix her being short and coming off distant? --should i adress it specifically or a different approach

Should i attempt to talk about the facebook picture thing or just avoid it?

Should I ask her about her about the guy she used to date writing all over her facebook wall? --if so how should i phrase it and still come off as alpha? Please be specific about the answers

Is there anything I can do to come off as more ALPHA in the situation?