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Tell me any experiences you guys have with girls that are very closed about their pasts. For example, I've been seeing this girl for about a month and she is very slow to disclose to much about her past. Relationships, sex, basically any problems she has had...if the conversation goes this route she is very matter of fact and short on details which we are just getting to know each other...so its cool, but I kind feel a red flag coming up.
She moved to my town from out of state about 5 mths ago and I got the feeling it was a very chaotic move which she later confirmed; however, she doesn't want to talk about it to much and I like her so I don't want to push to much but I also don't want to fall for her and get railroaded down the road. I guess she had a bad break and just up and moved all within a few weeks. My concerns are when I asked about the move she just said it was very chaotic and involved a break up....that's all she gave me. Maybe it's just her personality some people are closed books...correct? Well..any experiences with this type of girl or thoughts are appreciated.
Savage
Don't push at all. Take it slow and be careful about not sharing too much of yourself too fast. You don't want to get caught in the position where she has all the mystery in the relationship and you have bared your soul for her... (read Locke's onion theories
) I find that these girls are usually just bursting inside to tell everything to someone, anyone really, they feel they can trust. Just be a trurstworthy person and she will tell you, eventually.
I usually have the opposite problem, where everybody is telling me everything whether I want to listen or not
You don't wanna know how many "I've never told this to anyone before, but my dad raped me when I was a kid..." talks and such I've had
Before I got into PUA, it was one of the things that got me stuck deeply in LJBF land all the time. I'm a great listener. Fortunately, that also helps with my sarging, if I use my strength in other ways
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