Ive been doing the whole pua thing for a while, practiced alot over the summer, but really i was looking for a hb 9 or 10 when i got back school to relax with and if nothing else, to build up status. weve been dating for 3 weeks now, and i think ive been letting her get away with too much shit. in the beginning before we started dating, i was doing everything right and i had her wrapped around my finger, but now the relationship is starting to revolve around her. this weeks shes sick and has her period, so ive been doing alot to accomidate her. last week i wanted to go to atlantic city with some friends, but instead stayed with her for her friends b day, (i know). now i feel that she thinks she has me wrapped around her finger the way i had her around mine when we started. any suggestions? i want to keep her around, but i feel i would be happier if things went back to the way they were in the beginning

Things will always change in a relationship, from how they started off. Everyone gets more comfortable, everyone builds more closeness, etc.

I will give a much more sophisticated answer soon; but basically when you are in a relationship you have to make sure that you two are separate entities that are sharing a situation.

If you find yourself revolving around her, then take steps back. Little by little. You are not trying to remove yourself completely....and you still enjoy her company (and her yours). It is a problem many people have.

Try and spend a little less time with her. And while you are with her, try to not be as dependent. If you continue on this path, it will snowball to you eventually becoming clingy.

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i agree with locke, because i've noticed that a relationship is a constant struggle/balance to between 2 forces:

1) committing to the other person and adapting, and
[this is how you maintain comfort]

2) remaining the same person that you always were
[this is how you maintain attraction]

When you let that second one slip i think you find yourself in this situation. I wouldn't suggest making a dramatic change in your attitude towards her, but slowly start to demonstrate that you are still that guy she loved in the honeymoon phase. remember to keep force number 1 in balance though. its sorta like push/pull.

thanks alot guys. im definately gonna work on that. i appreciate the help

Set boundaries NOW! She needs to know where you stand bro.

Do not reward her bad behavior.

As far as the period and b-day thing.

Buy her some tampons and midols and tell her to tell her friend you said to have a nice b-day but you got plans....period (no pun intended lol)

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