Hey guys first time poster here. Im 26 years old. So i met this girl awhile back at an easter party who works in a city 5 hours away from where she is originally from (where i also live). She was back in town for a wedding for 2 days and finally went out on a date with her in september. We had a good time she drove us to a city 2 hours away. We really clicked and we just made out alot and walked around holding hands. The chemistry was really there. We didnt have sex.. She left the next day to go back to the city where she works in. We disdnt really keep in contact until she just recently came home. She will be here for 2 months. We went on our 2nd date saturday and it went great. Since then we have sen each other everyday since then. She has always texted me first and asked if we could see eachother. Sunday she invited me to her grandmothers house and it went great. Im a very likable guy juat in general. I have also met her bestfriends and they all like me. She invited me this friday to a concert and would also like me to meet her mother. I see this heading into a realtionship rather quickly. Heres the thing.. we havent had sex yet. She doesnt want to come over to my place for some reason and she hasnt invited me back to hers either. Ill just be sincere, i really like this girl. Alot. I feel very weird (in a good way) when im around her. Idk what to do. Ive never had a problem until now with women. Does she really like me and maybe holding out on sex? Im from a very tradional conservative country by the way. Am i seeing her too often? I just want to get my hopes up for no reason with this girl.

She is obviously interested in you and sees you as boyfriend material.

Therefore shes holding back with sex. She wants to wait.

If you really like her chill out and you will get what you want in the end.

Beware of the friend zone and don't get needy. I would suggest thay in the meantime you date some other girls as well. This will take a lot of pressure off you and make you more laidback ...and when she sees you as laidback/non-needy/not pushing for sex she will come to you. Trust me.

Works everytime.

So basically your advising OP to not try and have sex with a woman he is interested in and wait for her to come to him? Men should lead and initiate certainly when it comes to sleeping with someone for the first time. Woman are just as sexual as men so if she is attractive she is getting fucked by some other guy.

OP try taking the lead an arranging a meet up where your in control of the logistics/ have a reason to return back to yours or hers. Hell if your driving around suggest a nice view to see at night and when your parked up make a move.

Woman are not fragile flowers who are put off by men trying to fuck them. They are put off by men they know want to fuck them but are too scared to make the move.

OP try taking the lead an arranging a meet up where your in control of the logistics/ have a reason to return back to yours or hers. Hell if your driving around suggest a nice view to see at night and when your parked up make a move.

Woman are not fragile flowers who are put off by men trying to fuck them. They are put off by men they know want to fuck them but are too scared to make the move

well said

Tell her exactly what you're thinking:

"I think it's weird that I'm meeting your friends and family, but we haven't been intimate yet."

Because it IS weird.

Be congruent, and go for what you want in a direct and respectful way. There is no need for you to walk around on eggshells. You are a man. Start acting like it.

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Shes been buying me small things here and there. Like she bought me a lighter, she bought me a snow globe with my name on it, shes been buying me colas lol. Ive paid for only 2 of our dates. She would have paid for ALL of them but i refused to let her pay those 2 times and i really had to insist. She almost ALWAYS moves in for the kiss first and is always touching me. I think ive kind of fucked up by texting alittle too much to be honest but ive ignored her texts for up to 6-7 hours to see what she would do and she would write another text. She answers almost right away too. I really feel like im doing alot more things right than wrong. Im sure im fucking up somewhere and im not noticing but its looking like shes really into me. Tonight im gonna make something happen after the concert though. Im having so many dirty thoughts about her its killing me lol. Ill deff write an update sometime this weekend. Just to give you an idea how i feel when im around her, on 3 different occasions i actually forgot how to speak/ spoke gibberish. Jesus christ it was rediculous. Not because she put me on the spot/feeling unsure or anything but just the way she was looking at me with her green eyes. She is not the hottest girl ive been with either. I just feel some type of way. Im also talking to another girl plus i got 2 i can call just for sex but i feel so much more for her. This is acary in a way because i havent felt like this since i was a teenager lol!

But has she unzipped your pants? Until that happens, you're in the friend zone.


how old are you two? sounds like 18 or something.
Yes, you like her face. We've all been there. Still, get your emotions together.
BULLSHIT, lol.

you wouldn't be on here posting about a girl who's not having sex with you, if you had several hotter options.


Translation: "This is the first whiff of pussy I've had in a long time, and I don't know what to do."

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Sounds to me like you gave met a pretty awesome lady

It also sounds to me that she likes you a lot.

So on this occasion, there's no need for pua trickery , push pull or anything like that.

Just enjoy your time with her , have fun have a laugh. It will happen ! Don't fixate on having sex with her, just be patient and eventually you start hugging more as well .then she will start wanting to spoon and you will get invited over. Then nature will take it's course

Your relationship has great potential. I see the interaction and a certain mutuality and the coincidence of views on life. Of course, this may be a bit strange, but life is such that if you interessuet question, then you must act. Unrealized sexual energy usually turns into aggression, so it's better to shoot it with the help of other sources . This is confirmed by the notion of Freud's theory. So I wish you the best of luck and find the right way out of the situation

Your relationship has great potential. I see the interaction and a certain mutuality and the coincidence of views on life. Of course, this may be a bit strange, but life is such that if you interested in this question, then you must act. Unrealized sexual energy usually turns into aggression, so it's better to shoot it with the help of other sources. This is confirmed by the notion of Freud's theory. So I wish you the best of luck and find the right way out of the situation:)