Hi guys!

I am half a year into a great relationship that is really going well. We have great sex and she is almost always all over me and saying how happy she is and her actions supports her words. Except for on thing. She is very rarely the one that asks to hang out and see each other. she writes me and I can kind of sense she wants to meet but she does not ask for it.

It's kind of like a recurrent cycle. I am not texting her very much to keep the attraction and because I find texting boring. She then starts snap me and tag me on different stuff online. She then writes me on messenger but then I get the feeling that she wants me to set up the actual meeting. I haven't mind to do that at all but I can't help to find it annoying that we have to go through this inmature dance! Why can't she just tell me if she wants to see me? Does it always have to be the guy that sets it up? I get that I have to be the man and mostly do it but it's come to the point where I think a little initiative on her part wouldn't hurt.

How often do u see her?

Because girls have been conditioned and programmed to be led by the guy in that regard. Nothing to worry About, based on how she wants to be in contact with you so much.

With my current girlfriend, we often have fun, competitive dates like mini golf, bowling etc... The lower plans the next date or makes dinner or whatever. Keeps date planning even and creative. Try something like this maybe, although it really isn't a big deal from what I'm reading

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On average 2-3 times a week.

Good point! I will see if I can do this in a smart way.

And yes she is mad with me so nothing big to worry about. Actually she asked me the day after this post, so maybe it was just something in my head or because I didn't make the plans as I normally do when she reaches out.

I don't see anything wrong with her man, is you that are looking a little needy and women don't like needy guys
change your mindset or you may end up losing her, and 2, 3 times a week is more than enough, if you want to see her more often then ask her to move in with you, and you will have her 7/24/365

Just say the truth. Ie, the weird cycle is irritating and youd like some initiative on her part vs passivity. Simple. Exactly what you wrote. Dont be afraid to communicate what you would like of your gf. You dont have to "confront" or get mad, but you can say hey this is a weird pattern and lets change it.

Here's how I'd have this convo...just honesty. If I had this problem, and had to tell a friend about it, I wouldnt be sad, crying to him abt it. I'd find it irritating weird funny, I'd talk to my friend like "man, she does this weird thing lol" That same energy, I'd talk to my gf with. And I'd just call it out one day while laughing, "babe you do this funny thing where its like you want to see me, but you text and do all this extra stuff instead of asking..Ive caught on to it lol"...If she's my girl she could laugh at herself and say "yeah, I just shy and dont want to ask." Then I'd be like, "dont worry, you want to see me, just ask...i like when you take initiative." Thats a chill conversation, where you tease her about say what you want. No big deal.

Couldn't agree more. Be light about it. Poke some fun at her.

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